Ex girlfriend/ borderline personality disorder/ want her back?

for the record.. i am still in love with my ex.. even though she has bpd.. i did research and read books alas it was after she left me.. however i was talking with some of her friends, and even though she is dating a new guy now she still ';likes me';. The last thing i heard from her straight her was ';i hate you, your a loser, i wasted a year and half with you, i'm embarrassed, don't ever talk to me again or i'll place a restraining order on you.'; The day before she broke up with me she was telling me how she wanted to get engaged for christmas and get pregnant this summer? anyhow... anyone have experience with a bpd ex girlfriend? will she come back? I am not talking to her it's been over a month but i plan to contact her by the time summer rolls around (4 months from now).. I still love her and even though she is dating a new guy i don't think it will work out.. any suggestions or ideas? we dated for a year and a half and her longest bf before that was like 5 monthsEx girlfriend/ borderline personality disorder/ want her back?
Yes she will come back - and it will be the best three weeks of your life - then she will tell you that she hates you and wants you out of her life - and when you leave - she will call you and accuse you of abandoning her - and moan about how cruel you were - you will feel guilty because you seem like a nice guy - and you will promise not to abandon her next time, you will be back together for a week and she will get mad at you for going to the store for orange juice - because she knows that you have an ex-girlfriend who likes orange juice and she thinks that you might be planning on leaving her.





Don't bother with her - get on with your life and find a nice girl who actually likes YOU. Not someone who says that she loves you because you seem like the ideal man - if only you could change a few things.





Yikes.





Good luck.Ex girlfriend/ borderline personality disorder/ want her back?
If you love her you shouldn't give up. Borderlines have usually tolerated tremendous abuse. They survived they are afarid. Love takes time anyway most people don't have what it takes to be w/ someone who is damaged.

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Some women play endless games. At least you know the borderline wants kndness and love. You have to be mentally ill to want that these days.

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I know you love her. . and she probably will come back if you put care forth to her (it's what they want), but.. it isn't worth it for you, if she still has Bpd. Please, do not do it unless she is willing to get therapy. Please. It hurts so much. I was the Bpd girlfriend, and I didn't know it.. I hurt the man I love for an entire year before he could not take anymore. It hurt him so badly. Unless she shows steps in recovery, and actively wants it, do not do it. But if she agrees to therapy, you two will have to work together skill. Get the ';Walking on Eggshells'; workbook, and do it. If you really love her, then do anything you can to get her help. 1) You can be happy together, 2) She will unlikely ever be happy in her life if she does not get help. Trust me. It's a DAMNED miserable exsitnce, even if she seems so happy. It's all an act.





Good luck.
You can check my source to see how difficult it is to be the spouse/partner of someone with borderline personality disorder.





It's horrifying and they can unleash a firestorm of chaos and terror that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Unlike bipolar disorder - it's not often manageable with medication, only long-term, intensive therapy and even then the results aren't always that great. Further, 7%-10% of those formally diagnosed with BPD commit suicide successfully (many more try).





My sincere suggestion is to not burden yourself with such a relationship. You can't fix her. She can't fix her. And it takes an uncommon BPD to recognize that s/he has a problem and commit to what it takes to manage it properly.





My advice... let her go or deal with (potentially) a lifetime of madness.
If she has left YOU, then no matter how painful it might seem, it was for the best. She's projecting her ';crap'; on you. She hates herself, she is the loser, and you're actually the one who wasted a year and half with you. It sounds nuts, but the BPD is what's nuts. In time, you'll see that it's for the best, and when a BPD leaves, it's usually because they think you'll leave them, or you weren't as ';easy'; a target as they thought. So, they leave before you leave them. Something like that.





Do NOT have any contact with her because it'll make things worse. If she DOES crawl back(and it's not uncommon for people like her to do so), then no matter how tempting it would be to take her back, DON'T. Unless she is willing to go through years of therapy, and I do mean years, then she will not change.





Just stay away(avoid any and all contact with her) or YOU will suffer along with her.
.....wtf
if you cantoact her you will probably make her mad.


she will probably have an episode !





don't put her through that please !
You really would be better off leaving this one alone. She will always have these problems.


I have watched many families torn apart by mental illness.

I really like my ex's best friend.. what should i do?

My ex and I dated for a little over two years, and broke up almost two years ago. However, we remain good friends. The other night my neighbors had a party that the guy i've had a crush on drove around two hours to come to with my ex and i. I haven't seen him for a couple of months, and the second I saw him i got all excited and gave him a hug and told him that i missed him. he told me he had missed me too.





Later that night at the party we came back to my house to smoke a cigarettebecause it was cold outside. we sat on my couch and being slightly intoxicated, I told him the feelings i had for him for the past couple of years. he replied ';that's fine'; and then told me he needed a hug. he gave me a huge hug and didn't seem to ever want to let go. after that we just sat around and then went back to the party, where we were pretty much inseparable the rest of the night. after the party, me, him, my ex and my ex's roommate came back to my house and just sat around. both my ex and his roommate fell asleep, and adam and i continued drinking and talking to each other until almost three in the morning. the sofa and the futon were both being used, so i told him if he wanted to sleep in my bed with me that he could. he ended up sleeping in my bed with me, and we also ended up sleeping together.





i feel like he has the same feelings for me, but i dont know for sure. i admitted to my ex that adam and i slept together and my ex didn't seem to have a problem with it. this just seems like a complicated situation. Adam and I have always had a ton of stuff in common. My ex even told me he figured that Adam and I were going to end up dating at some point. Do I ask Adam how he feels? He did say to me that it would be weird to date me due to the awkwardness of the whole ex's best friend situation. Should i tell him what my ex said to me? Someone please give me some advice! Also, does it seem like he feels the same way about me?I really like my ex's best friend.. what should i do?
Just ask him.I really like my ex's best friend.. what should i do?
blow them both and see how your ex feels about it
just take what you hart want
Steer clear,, i went out with a mates ex once thinking he didnt mind but eventually it became clear it was affecting him and it ruined my friendship with him and i eventually stopped seeing the girl too.

The Ex wants me back now, really dont know what to do?

Ok so a couple weeks ago i broke up w/ my ex bc i caught her talk to her ex boyfriend multiple time and not just ';hey how are you' but things like i love you, i miss you, one time she even told him that she was single. and she talk to other guys just bc she likes the attention, she admitted that. i just grew so tired of it, it was so wrong and unfair. she says its all bc her first bf messed her head up so bad so now she craves attention from guys bc he never gave her any. But after a couple of time of pouring my heart out and tellin her how much that she hurt me by sayin those things to her ex bf, she continued to do it so i had to break it off.





when i first broke it off i knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that i hoped she would change and we could work it out. of course i was down and missed her like crazy. but after a little while i felt better and like i was ready to just move on. So about a week ago she started callin again alot saying how much see missed me and is sorry. so we started hangin out some again, she says she will change and that she knows she needs to fix things.





I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. im really stuck. sometimes i think just go and move on she wont change. then i think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good. Its just tough bc now when we hang out all i can think about is oh great who is she talking to now.





She has started seeing a pyschiatrist since she knows she has some issues and she ';says'; that one of the main things she talks about with them is how she likes attention and how she keeps talkin to her ex even though she has no true feelings for him. I dunno what to do, it seems like she really wants to fix things but who knows if she will and if so how long will i have to wait around for it.


I thought about just givin it a rest w/ her for a while so she can get herself straight. i just feel like its now or never though. like we will be too far down are own paths later on to work anything outThe Ex wants me back now, really dont know what to do?
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My ex is still wondering about me...and about my current boyfriend...?

Me and my ex dated for SIX days.. But before that we were just friends with benefits, we made out everytime we saw each other and we would get very intimate with eachother.. I thought that it was going to last but I relized that the age difference was too crazy and my parents would never allow me to date him...I mean I didnt even tell them about him. Im 15 and he just turned 20.. so i broke up with him.





I still have FEELINGS for my ex...








but i really like my current boyfriend, and because I see him everyday, unlike my ex.. i only saw him three times a week, because he would pick me up from school and drop me off..





but my boyfriend I acctually get to see him which i love.. i dont have to wait till the day is over and wait for him to come to me.





How can I avoid talking to my ex....even though I CANT HELP MYSELF !!!My ex is still wondering about me...and about my current boyfriend...?
what the hell r u doing to ur self???????????????????


u need to grew up !!!!!!!!!!!!

Help ex wants me back, dont know if i should though?

Ok so a couple weeks ago i broke up w/ my ex bc i caught her talk to her ex boyfriend multiple time and not just ';hey how are you' but things like i love you, i miss you, one time she even told him that she was single. and she talk to other guys just bc she likes the attention, she admitted that. i just grew so tired of it, it was so wrong and unfair. she says its all bc her first bf messed her head up so bad so now she craves attention from guys bc he never gave her any. But after a couple of time of pouring my heart out and tellin her how much that she hurt me by sayin those things to her ex bf, she continued to do it so i had to break it off.





when i first broke it off i knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that i hoped she would change and we could work it out. of course i was down and missed her like crazy. but after a little while i felt better and like i was ready to just move on. So about a week ago she started callin again alot saying how much see missed me and is sorry. so we started hangin out some again, she says she will change and that she knows she needs to fix things.





I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. im really stuck. sometimes i think just go and move on she wont change. then i think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good. Its just tough bc now when we hang out all i can think about is oh great who is she talking to now.





She has started seeing a pyschiatrist since she knows she has some issues and she ';says'; that one of the main things she talks about with them is how she likes attention and how she keeps talkin to her ex even though she has no true feelings for him. I dunno what to do, it seems like she really wants to fix things but who knows if she will and if so how long will i have to wait around for it.


I thought about just givin it a rest w/ her for a while so she can get herself straight. i just feel like its now or never though. like we will be too far down are own paths later on to work anything outHelp ex wants me back, dont know if i should though?
theres a reason they are called ';ex's';. Once they are an ';ex'; they never stop.

I Like My Ex?

I still like my ex even tho I broke up with her a year ago. I think she likes some other guy so I dont want to tell her how I feel straight up. we still talk and make jokes. I dont know if I should give up or keep at it. I feel like I'm getting no where.





What Should I Do?I Like My Ex?
R u sure she likes another guy, maybe she still loves u too. I would assume that u didnt broke up over a fight as u keep in touch. Try talking with her about ur good old times. This can give u some idea about how she feels about u. If u get positive feedback, dont waste ur time anymore. Tell her how u feel. If she tells u to forget about those times then u can take it as a signal that she dosent want u back.





If u get her back pls this time be more sincere about ur relationship. I am not implying that it was ur fault that u broke up. Just remember a second chance comes only once. Good luck.I Like My Ex?
fight, fight,fight....if you like her, go for it, man ! i would...it's not like, you see, what you like, in any given day. GO FOR IT !
why did you dump her in the first place?
you should really tell her!


if u dont she might like someone eles and u never know, she might still like u, too!
Maybe you should just tell her how u feel maybe it looks like she likes someone else but she is really trying to make u jelious.


u never know unless u try!
So do I...only I am still madly in love with him. Why don't you ask her if she still has feelings for you? You never know..she may feel the same way
go for it and forget the past
well...why did you break it off with her? Did she do cheat on you? Do something you didn't like? If you get back together the same problems will be there. I'm just shocked that you two still talk and joke around together. Myself. When my ex's break up with me. I don't talk to them. If they try to get a hold of me saying there where wrong. I tell them to stick it somewhere and that they had there chance. But that's just me. So if you want to take the chance...go for it. If not. Wonder for the rest of your life.
maybe the reason you feel this way is because you are getting along great as friends and misinterpreting these feelings.... just stay friends and move on
If you haven't talked to her yet, then maybe that's something you should do. Get communicating, seriously, how you feel about her, so you can get some feedback on how she may feel. Who knows, maybe she feels the same, but is waiting to hear it from you!





Friendship is one thing, but if you still have feelings for her, that are strong enough to want to rekindle the relationship you once had, then you need to address that right away, before she moves on to someone else.
Just be friends. I am with my ex and we can joke and have fun but that doesent mean I want him in that special way
MOVE ON SHE IS SEEING SOMEONE ELSE!!


Live your own life!!
Find out whether she is dating the guy or not.





See if she might want to try and work things out again.





Either way, you don't deserve her anymore.
RUN RUN RUN Don't you remember how bad it was?
I have an ex I will love until the day I die. Sometimes you just have to box it up in the corner of your heart because it will never go away. You can pull it out and look at it when you need to, but make yourself happy.
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dude


im still crazy about my x-gf vicy





me %26amp; her broke up over 10 years ago


im gonna try to win her back asap.


i beleve some day she might come back


i dont know how soon or when





if you care abut her ask her to see you again
You took that chance when you broke up with her. You probably made it quite clear a year ago that it was over, and she was probably heartbroken and then got over you and moved on with her life, which includes getting involved with new guys. She is talking to you just to be civil and I don't think that there is a chance for you to get back with her. The time for that has already come and gone...the right time for that would have been right after you broke up, when she still wanted you and if you realized you had made a mistake.....but that is the chance you take, when you let someone go, you have to think about it first, they might not take you back should you change your mind in the future.
Keep it up. You should always tell a woman exactly how much you love her and never give up. Even if she is seeing other guys let her know you are still interested and don't mind sloppy seconds.
Give up friend, look for someother woman, I had the same problem. Trust me, just stay freinds.. nothing more

Ex boyfriend and I are trying reconcile but his fag hag hates me?

Well my boyfriend and I are talking about getting back together after a month and a half of breaking up. We broke up because I was dealing with coming out to my parents and I started to abandon the relationship the last two months of a year long relationship.





Since then, I've come out to my parents and regained my self confidence. But now my ex has begun seeing someone he likes but after we had a heart to heart conversation, he's seen how much I've changed and we are now talking about a possible reconceliation but he feels trapped with this new guy he's dating and doesn't want to hurt his feelings.





I do believe he likes him but he's still misses me a lot and still loves me. The only problem is that his fag hag has warned him that if he ever reconciles back with me she will stop talking to him. The new guy he is dating is good friends with my ex's fag hag so if my ex breaks up with him, she will cut all communication with my ex.





The problem I have is my ex really likes his fag hag and enjoys spending time with her and the rest of his friends. The problem is that when we were together, I didn't get along with his friends and whenever we would hang out with his friends it would cause a fight between me and my ex so we kind of stopped hanging out with them all together.





Since our break up, all my ex does is hang out with his friends now and the new guy he's dating. So he's a little hesitant about a reconceliation since he doesn't want to stop seeing his friends.





I have thought about talking to his fag hag in hopes that we can atleast be in good terms in case my ex and I get back together. I have never done anything against this girl but she just doesn't like me, she's such a ***** but I'm willing to do anything to be able to get back together with my ex, even if I have to befriend the fag hag.





Please help, What should I do???Ex boyfriend and I are trying reconcile but his fag hag hates me?
As a fag hag, I know how this girl is feeling. Your best bet is to figure out what to say to her. Decide on how you feel about your ex, and then try to get together with her, and tell her exactly how you feel. She cares about her fag, and she wants what is best for him. You have to show her that you are the best for him.Ex boyfriend and I are trying reconcile but his fag hag hates me?
so the fag hag a female.. what is she a friend? and he's dating a guy? how does she fit in?


so theres you, your ex, his current 'bf' and a girl? how does that work out?
Befriend with the hag and get your bf back. Once you got him back, kick the hag out :). Good luck.
Okay um... WOW... If my man were in that position I'd tell him to forget the manipulative hag and get on with things. I'd point out that in my opinion a real friend wouldn't do something like that and be such a **** and so manipulative. I'd also tell him that if he can't get back with me then I'd hope to still be friends somewhat but that if he didn't come after me I might find someone else and I won't always be an option.