DOnt know what to do w/ my EX, she wants me back?

This was a previous post but i just added the bottom 2 paragraphs, please read! sorry its long





Ok so a couple weeks ago i broke up w/ my ex bc i caught her talk to her ex boyfriend multiple time and not just ';hey how are you' but things like i love you, i miss you, one time she even told him that she was single. and she talk to other guys just bc she likes the attention, she admitted that. i just grew so tired of it, it was so wrong and unfair. she says its all bc her first bf messed her head up so bad so now she craves attention from guys bc he never gave her any. But after a couple of time of pouring my heart out and tellin her how much that she hurt me by sayin those things to her ex bf, she continued to do it so i had to break it off.





when i first broke it off i knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that i hoped she would change and we could work it out. of course i was down and missed her like crazy. but after a little while i felt better and like i was ready to just move on. So about a week ago she started callin again alot saying how much see missed me and is sorry. so we started hangin out some again, she says she will change and that she knows she needs to fix things.





I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. im really stuck. sometimes i think just go and move on she wont change. then i think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good. Its just tough bc now when we hang out all i can think about is oh great who is she talking to now.





She has started seeing a pyschiatrist since she knows she has some issues and she ';says'; that one of the main things she talks about with them is how she likes attention and how she keeps talkin to her ex even though she has no true feelings for him. I dunno what to do, it seems like she really wants to fix things but who knows if she will and if so how long will i have to wait around for it.


I thought about just givin it a rest w/ her for a while so she can get herself straight. i just feel like its now or never though. like we will be too far down are own paths later on to work anything out








ok so last night my Ex starts texting an calling me a bunch of times. so finally by like the third time she calls i pick it up. shes already kind of upset at this point and she just wants me to come over and see her. i told her i cant and this is just what i need to do. i explained to her that she just needs to help herself right now. she of course became really upset and crying a ton. i hate seeing her that upset.





But then i told her maybe down the road if she truely feels like she has changed then we can see where we stand. but i know she just looks at this as me just being a jerk and selfish probaly. she seemed so sadden and sincere but i think i really need to stick w/ this breakup. someone please ensure me that im doing the right thing :( i know that this could push her away for good, but i think, and hopefully this is a chance i have to take.DOnt know what to do w/ my EX, she wants me back?
It's good that your ex is going to therapy, and that she's starting to recognize the traits that make her act out destructively. The connection that she and you don't seem to have made yet is that her desperate attempt to get you to see her is just another form of crying out for attention. If she's going to make the changes she needs to make for your relationship to work out, then she does need to stand on her own for a bit and learn to be secure with her own company.DOnt know what to do w/ my EX, she wants me back?
Congrats for being strong bro! Youa re doing this the right way. You can be there for her but keep your distance...she broke your ehart and you want to guard against that ever happeneing again. I think you are right in saying that she needs to get help...rehabilitate herself...she has to show you that she genuinely changed before you take her back...and she has to do it for herself...not for you. Dont fall for her words...let her take acion! Once she is taking action you will know she is serious. And you can be there for her to support her but as a friend for now. And if she does get better and you see genuine change...then take her back....but dont take her back until she has shown that she has changed! If you are worth it to her she will do whatever it takes....if she doesnt...it was not meant to be. Just make sure that you keep your distancew for now so you are not sucked into her possible manipulation