when i first broke it off i knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that i hoped she would change and we could work it out. of course i was down and missed her like crazy. but after a little while i felt better and like i was ready to just move on. So about a week ago she started callin again alot saying how much see missed me and is sorry. so we started hangin out some again, she says she will change and that she knows she needs to fix things.
I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. im really stuck. sometimes i think just go and move on she wont change. then i think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good. Its just tough bc now when we hang out all i can think about is oh great who is she talking to now.
She has started seeing a pyschiatrist since she knows she has some issues and she ';says'; that one of the main things she talks about with them is how she likes attention and how she keeps talkin to her ex even though she has no true feelings for him. I dunno what to do, it seems like she really wants to fix things but who knows if she will and if so how long will i have to wait around for it.
I thought about just givin it a rest w/ her for a while so she can get herself straight. i just feel like its now or never though. like we will be too far down are own paths later on to work anything outHELP. Broke up Now my EX wants me back, don't know if i should?
You need to remember all the reasons why you broke up with her in the first place. But what is important here is that she knows that she has issues that she needs to deal with. And if she is seeing a psychiatrist then that means she wants to change her life around. You said you thought about just giving it a rest while she gets her life in order and you should. I think your ex needs space right now so she can sort out her feelings.
I can tell that you are not sure if you should wait for this girl or not. My concern for you is that if you wait for this girl then you could get hurt all over again. The one thing that confuses me is that she never went to you to get more attention. She went to her ex and other guys instead. And for her to say that she craves attention because her first boyfriend had messed up her so bad is ridiculous. I honestly believe that she told you that because she got caught flirting with those guys. If this girl really loved you then the only person she needed around her to give her the attention that she needed would have been you. But she didn't go to you. I think there is more going on with her. So you are going to have to decide what is the best thing for you to do. My advice to you is to stay away from her until she can confirm that she has changed. It's too soon for her to tell you that she is going to change. I don't want to discourage you but sometimes some people just don't change. They can see a psychiatrist for years and they still don't change. So give her a chance to work on her problems and take it from there.HELP. Broke up Now my EX wants me back, don't know if i should?
i can tell that you really love this girl, but seriously you don't deserve that kind of pain. The best thing i would advise you to do is to stay away from her until you truly feel like your over her, then you guys could be friends. But being in a relationship with her is poison, i should know because unfortunately i was like that. not anymore because i realised that it was messing up a great majority of my relationships however, it took me a VERY long untill realise this. the problem with her is that she is acting this way because she is veryinsecuree about herself and in turn is using not only you for attention but her ex and other men for attention just so she could verify a way to help seek out and solve these insecurities. please try to move on without her in your life. her journey to deal with her insecurities will take a long time she is a woman after all.
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