This is a problem that she should work out on her own. You can be there as a friend, but I wouldn't get too involved. She should talk things over with a therapist because there are psychological reasons as to why she seeks out abusive men. My guess is that you are a good boyfriend, thoughtful, caring, etc., and this does not excite her. It's unfortunate, but that's just how she is wired right now.
Take things easy for a bit and just let her work on things. You say that you love her, but if she doesn't love you back, it really isn't much of a relationship anyway.I need help with my ex-girlfriend.?
She may be overwhelmed, or scared by the initial intesity of your week. She may be doubting her feelings, because of the bad experience she had before. If I were you, I would let her have some time to work through some of the old issues she has with her ex. Tell her you will be there to talk through it, if she wants. But tell her you can't keep seeing her, until she has worked through the past, and is ready for a healthy relationship.
OMG Im So Sorry For Both Of You...=[
What I Think You Should Do Even Though It May Hurt You So Much.....I Think You Should Stay Friends With Her And Help Her Get Over Her Ex And Mabe Get Another Fried Aswell To Help?
Then Mabe After She Is Over Him(you might not have the same feelings then?) you should ask her could you take you really good relationship further?
well i hope i helped and everything is goign to be really ok
Often when something like abuse occurs it takes years for the memories to fade, and some never go away. Give her some time to recover from the emotional (and in this case possibly physical) scars that she may have, and once she's ready, if she really loves you, she'll let you know.
For now just try to help her on the road to recovery, and try to give advice in a friendly (not boy-friendly) way.
Having been where she is, she probably will hurt you. It's not about you it's about never wanting to put herself in such a situation again. If you are patient and tell her you will stick it out with her... never make her feel bad about being with this jerk either... then she may reconsider. If that fails, maybe giving her some time to think and get over it all she may have a change of mind...
Something like this can be hard to get over but you will. Hope for the best but expect the worst. You can try to talking face to face with the girl she told you something in a note so im assuming your still in junior high school?? Either way there are still many fish in the sea. Good luck!
The process of healing after a breakup takes longer for some people. Just give her some time, dont expect her to rush and give u an ultimatum any time soon. Relax, let her know that u care and are willing to wait, and maybe sooner than u think, she will be ready to take a step. time is very important, so for now, just chill.
ok well after a week after seeing eachother you guys should not be taking it to that level. If she is not over her ex than you need to give her time. If it works out, it works out. If not than you need to move on
you are in a tough situation and its really up to you whether you want to help her or not. Will helping her make you feel better? Or will it make you want her more? Its nice to help someone forget their past but it might come with a consequence.
okay well all you can really do is be there for her right now. Just try helping her through it and show her that you are not the same as mr. a** hole back there. Make her feel comfortable and safe.
well i know that she still likes you but she is hurt so badly that shes so afraid to get hurt again. and well you could tell her that you love her and you are never going to hurt her.
i hope it helped
Assure her that you and her ex are two different people, and that you would NEVER do the same thing to hurt her. If she still sees the ex, maybe she just can't let go of the past...
You should explain to her how you feel and that you are worried about her, she will come back he will hurt her just be there for her for now until she realizes that you are the one for her!!
i think if you helped her get threw what she is going threw you might have another chance with her and you would be helping her which would show her you care and that your there for her.
usually when they say this.. even tho there ex is abusive they still love there ex... this is just how girls r they wanna be boss around
Forget about her you dont need to deal with a girl like that. You need a girl who appreciates you....seriously...
give her some time. be her friend through all of this. i think she will get over it and move on. hopefully she will move on to you :)
easy:
Talk to her
nothing much just give her time oh if u need dome one to talk to my friend is free jesus101@usa.com tel her lindy her mindless friend told u
aawww!
those are the words of you actually loving her!
You seem to be a very caring person. And if that is true, you need to allow her some time to heal. As hard as it may be, she might not end up back with you. But I believe you will be okay either way.
It's like they say ';If its meant to be it will be';
So give her ';wings'; and she will come back if its true.
Good luck!
p.s. if you CAN help her and she allows you to help her, more power to you!
Well... I am sorry you feel that way. Just be her friend for now. A lot of girls can't just bounce back after a relationship even a abusive one! Show her that you are okay with that.Even though you may hurt inside. Send her some flower and a card tell her that you are there for her. She will see that you are not anything like her ex. She may start to think that you are the greatest person and may like you for more than a friend.
ok tis is what you can do. go and talk to her about what she might want and if she tells you that she want you then listen to her, she's not lieing to you if she says that to you. and dif she says that she wants her ex-boyfriend back then if you love her you will let her go back because it's what she wants to do
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