EX wants me back, HELP dont know what to do?

This was a previous post but i just added the bottom 2 paragraphs, please read! sorry its long





Ok so a couple weeks ago i broke up w/ my ex bc i caught her talk to her ex boyfriend multiple time and not just ';hey how are you' but things like i love you, i miss you, one time she even told him that she was single. and she talk to other guys just bc she likes the attention, she admitted that. i just grew so tired of it, it was so wrong and unfair. she says its all bc her first bf messed her head up so bad so now she craves attention from guys bc he never gave her any. But after a couple of time of pouring my heart out and tellin her how much that she hurt me by sayin those things to her ex bf, she continued to do it so i had to break it off.





when i first broke it off i knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that i hoped she would change and we could work it out. of course i was down and missed her like crazy. but after a little while i felt better and like i was ready to just move on. So about a week ago she started callin again alot saying how much see missed me and is sorry. so we started hangin out some again, she says she will change and that she knows she needs to fix things.





I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. im really stuck. sometimes i think just go and move on she wont change. then i think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good. Its just tough bc now when we hang out all i can think about is oh great who is she talking to now.





She has started seeing a pyschiatrist since she knows she has some issues and she ';says'; that one of the main things she talks about with them is how she likes attention and how she keeps talkin to her ex even though she has no true feelings for him. I dunno what to do, it seems like she really wants to fix things but who knows if she will and if so how long will i have to wait around for it.


I thought about just givin it a rest w/ her for a while so she can get herself straight. i just feel like its now or never though. like we will be too far down are own paths later on to work anything out








Ok so very recently she still beggin for me back. she even went as far to show me a conversation she had with her ex where she told him that they needed to stop talkin to one another bc it ruined my relationship. she told him she loves me and im the one she wants. That really did help me feel like she is serious about a change.





It just still so tough, bc i was actually startin to kind of enjoy being single but i do still love her and im afraid when i get tired again a little down the road of runnin around enjoying the single life im gonna want her back so bad. Im also kind of scared she may go back to her old ways im seriously sooooooo confused!!!EX wants me back, HELP dont know what to do?
Next week she'll be begging the other ex to get back together.


Move on mate!EX wants me back, HELP dont know what to do?
Unless you both have changed a lot, things will just get back to the way they were before.


Don't bother going back.
TLDR, wrong forum.





Move on with your life.


She's using you like a nasty rug.
Wowsers, she sounds like a really high maintenance gal.





If you guys don't have kids together I think perhaps you should follow your instinct and stay away from her. Better to be single and sane than in a relationship where you are getting jerked around because she likes drama and she likes to be the star of all that drama. The good news is, you don't have to live in her soap opera.





Good luck to you!
She's your ex for a reason.... don't go there.





And you don't love her, you love what you WISH she were, and what you THOUGHT she was, and guess, what???? They aren't the same people, are they?????





A wonderful old man I knew once said, ';The only thing good reheated is stuff cabbage...';





You might think about that, hon.
To be honest it's a good start that she is seeking help. It's a big risk given that she burned you, but that's a risk in any relationship. You can say forget it and be safe, but will you say what if? There is no need to make a decision right now, just see what happens and if it's not good enough then you know and there is no what if
I think she is too dependant on you, and as a result, she has made you her 'God' so to speak.





THIS ISNT A GOOD THING. It would be best for her is she settled down first and got herlife back together. Once that happens, then you can consider anything.





Getting back with her will only throw off, what seems to be an unstable person.





Let her get some stability without adding extra weight right now. Good Luck
I think that she's more confused than you are...if I were you I would stay apart from her a bit and wait a good amount of time before I get back together with her. Tell her that you jus wanna be friends with her for now and if you start liking her you guys should get back together, just make sure you like her.
I'm a firm believer that things DO happen for reasons. You broke up w/her for your own reasons, those reasons are still there even if you can't see them clearly at the moment. She is clouding your judgment %26amp; is getting you really confused rite about now. Just remember the reasons you broke up w/her in the first place. People do NOT just happen to change over nite. You also stated you were starting to feel good about yourself in that you were free of all this craziness. Do you honestly feel you even want to take the chance things have changed THIS SOON %26amp; that she just won't ';slide'; back to the person you just worked so hard to get yourself away from? I just feel it's far too soon to take that chance again. You're already going thru the ';what ifs'; now. What if this, what if that, You are plainly just NOT sure it's doing the rite thing to go back to her this soon. There are reasons you ARE feeling this way. I just feel you still have a few too many red flags waving in front of your face for you to take a chance, then to have it all get smashed against the rocks again %26amp; you'll be rite back where you were. I'd honestly say to listen to your heart, listen to that little ';voice of reason'; that's making you hesitate because it's all happening ';for a reason:, I feel IF you were absolutely sure about things you wouldn't have ANY questions about it as you now have, so I'd go w/the feeling you now have %26amp; just tell her you don't feel you're ready to take any chances at the moment now, not yet anyway, NO ONE can fault you for the feelings you feel like you do because you have good reasons for them...I wish you all the best...:)
You gave her plenty of rope, she chose to hang herself and nobody would fault you for walking away at this point. In fact that's probably what I would do -- I would tell her I was glad she was getting her head checked but she waited too long to do anything for ';us'; to work out, and I would rather take my chances elsewhere. But, in the end it's your call.





If you do decide to tough it out:


-- How much attention exactly are you going to have to give her to keep her satisfied? Because you know she wasn't getting enough from you. Can you step it up that much? -%26gt; Are you compatible?


-- Do you think you can ever get over the crap she's done to you in the past?


-- If you met another girl and she also did this to you, would there even be a question in your mind as to what you would do? What I am asking is, is it possible the only reason you're considering trying again is because this is the first time you've been screwed over so royally?