Friday, August 20, 2010

Need advice on my Ex?

Is it possible to fall in love with someone after 2months, break up with them and still wanna be with them 3months later? Even tho you no, you tell yourself that she wasnt worth your time, that you could do better, find someone else that just might love you for who you are and NOT who you MIGHT be





Is it possibe to love someone who never made the time to see you, call you and was allways busy doing un-important things, meeting up with other guys or just crying to you about her Ex even tho you hadnt heard or spoken to her in the last 2days





If so how? If so why, how can we love such a person, was it love or was that what i told myself to help me get threw a dark period of time in my life. I might only be 18, stressed out and confused about her, telling myself that i never loved her, that i hated her and that i dont need her but was i ever in love with her?





It couldnt of been love, or was it?Need advice on my Ex?
Screw love, it damn near sounds like obsession. You sound like you're driving yourself crazy thinking about her the way you do. Let it go man. If she isn't willing or ready to let go of the past, then she can't possibly be ready to start a future with you. You need a woman who isn't so heartbroken and bitter about the past. I'd also like to add, that if she talks to you about her ex-boyfriend, she sees you as a friend with a shoulder to cry on, not a future boyfriend. Good luck to you.





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My best frand likes my ex!! ?

my best frand likes my ex.


we went rollar skating yesterday.


and she told me that she liked him.


and i think that i still like him too.


like i think its more then like its love.


and like she kept talking about him.


and she kept calling him hawt and everything.


but she was being a ***** to him yesteday and she was being ';hard to get';


and it just hurts me to see him getting treated like that by her.


and it really really hurts me for her to be talking about my ex.


even tho i have a boyfrand i dont have a connection with him as much as i have one with my ex.


he kissed me yesteday when my boyfrand wasnt looking.


i really dont know anything anymore.


and my best frand knows that im mad at her cuz i ignored her the whole night yesteday.


and i wont pick up her calls.


but like seriously how can she NOT expect me to be mad at her ?My best frand likes my ex!! ?
My best friend did that to me. She was like ';Uhm, I think I like Mike. What would you think if I went out with him?'; so I was like ';I'd feel pissed, angry, betrayed etc';. She went out with him anyway. I'm still mad at her for it. Yeah I have a new boyfriend and he's amazingg and I'm wondering what I ever saw in my ex, but the betrayal hurts.





Then she and I were talking one day and she was like ';Well you weren't mad for that long'; and I was like ';actually I was mad for a long time';

I want my ex back, but dnt know how to tell him i gave my virginity to another guy?!?

i got two guys in my life and they both cool and there own ways. the thing is i still love my ex even tho we broke up 2 years ago and he loves me too, but i cnt be with him cuz i dnt noe how to tell him i gave my virginity to another guy!


the other guy is my current boyfriend AND we been together for a year, but i dnt love him.


but i dnt want to hurt him, he is in love with me.


so should i stay with my ex or be with some 1 i dnt like so i dnt hurt himI want my ex back, but dnt know how to tell him i gave my virginity to another guy?!?
OH MY GOD!


ok. ...


if you love your ex and you know he loves you back than i don't think he would care a lot, to never even speak to you


he might feel a little betrayed but that would be a way to really truly see if he really loves you because he won't really put your relationship on the lineI want my ex back, but dnt know how to tell him i gave my virginity to another guy?!?
you don't have to tell him unless he ask you. and when he does just tell him straight out

I need help with my ex-girlfriend.?

I recently got together with a girl I have liked for quite a long time, and everything was going great for a week. We coulnd't stop telling eachother how much we cared for one another, and how lucky we were to have eachother.. but today something horrible happend. She told me in a note that when she is with me, all she could see was her ex-boyfriend. Her ex was very abusive, which makes it really hard for her. She said she just wanted to be friends so she doesn't end up breaking my heart, which ironically has allready been done. I love her more than anything, and I just don't know what to do. I can't just forget about her.. like I said, I know that I love her. Should I help her get through her problem with her ex? Even if I can't be with her anymore, I just hate to think that she is hurting and that there is nothing I am doing about it. My heart feels torn, as does any when it gets borken of course, but its a sefless hurt. I feel afraid for her more then I feel sorry for myself.I need help with my ex-girlfriend.?
This is a problem that she should work out on her own. You can be there as a friend, but I wouldn't get too involved. She should talk things over with a therapist because there are psychological reasons as to why she seeks out abusive men. My guess is that you are a good boyfriend, thoughtful, caring, etc., and this does not excite her. It's unfortunate, but that's just how she is wired right now.


Take things easy for a bit and just let her work on things. You say that you love her, but if she doesn't love you back, it really isn't much of a relationship anyway.I need help with my ex-girlfriend.?
She may be overwhelmed, or scared by the initial intesity of your week. She may be doubting her feelings, because of the bad experience she had before. If I were you, I would let her have some time to work through some of the old issues she has with her ex. Tell her you will be there to talk through it, if she wants. But tell her you can't keep seeing her, until she has worked through the past, and is ready for a healthy relationship.
OMG Im So Sorry For Both Of You...=[


What I Think You Should Do Even Though It May Hurt You So Much.....I Think You Should Stay Friends With Her And Help Her Get Over Her Ex And Mabe Get Another Fried Aswell To Help?


Then Mabe After She Is Over Him(you might not have the same feelings then?) you should ask her could you take you really good relationship further?





well i hope i helped and everything is goign to be really ok
Often when something like abuse occurs it takes years for the memories to fade, and some never go away. Give her some time to recover from the emotional (and in this case possibly physical) scars that she may have, and once she's ready, if she really loves you, she'll let you know.


For now just try to help her on the road to recovery, and try to give advice in a friendly (not boy-friendly) way.
Having been where she is, she probably will hurt you. It's not about you it's about never wanting to put herself in such a situation again. If you are patient and tell her you will stick it out with her... never make her feel bad about being with this jerk either... then she may reconsider. If that fails, maybe giving her some time to think and get over it all she may have a change of mind...
Something like this can be hard to get over but you will. Hope for the best but expect the worst. You can try to talking face to face with the girl she told you something in a note so im assuming your still in junior high school?? Either way there are still many fish in the sea. Good luck!
The process of healing after a breakup takes longer for some people. Just give her some time, dont expect her to rush and give u an ultimatum any time soon. Relax, let her know that u care and are willing to wait, and maybe sooner than u think, she will be ready to take a step. time is very important, so for now, just chill.
ok well after a week after seeing eachother you guys should not be taking it to that level. If she is not over her ex than you need to give her time. If it works out, it works out. If not than you need to move on
you are in a tough situation and its really up to you whether you want to help her or not. Will helping her make you feel better? Or will it make you want her more? Its nice to help someone forget their past but it might come with a consequence.
okay well all you can really do is be there for her right now. Just try helping her through it and show her that you are not the same as mr. a** hole back there. Make her feel comfortable and safe.
well i know that she still likes you but she is hurt so badly that shes so afraid to get hurt again. and well you could tell her that you love her and you are never going to hurt her.


i hope it helped
Assure her that you and her ex are two different people, and that you would NEVER do the same thing to hurt her. If she still sees the ex, maybe she just can't let go of the past...
You should explain to her how you feel and that you are worried about her, she will come back he will hurt her just be there for her for now until she realizes that you are the one for her!!
i think if you helped her get threw what she is going threw you might have another chance with her and you would be helping her which would show her you care and that your there for her.
usually when they say this.. even tho there ex is abusive they still love there ex... this is just how girls r they wanna be boss around
Forget about her you dont need to deal with a girl like that. You need a girl who appreciates you....seriously...
give her some time. be her friend through all of this. i think she will get over it and move on. hopefully she will move on to you :)
easy:





Talk to her
nothing much just give her time oh if u need dome one to talk to my friend is free jesus101@usa.com tel her lindy her mindless friend told u
aawww!


those are the words of you actually loving her!


You seem to be a very caring person. And if that is true, you need to allow her some time to heal. As hard as it may be, she might not end up back with you. But I believe you will be okay either way.





It's like they say ';If its meant to be it will be';


So give her ';wings'; and she will come back if its true.





Good luck!





p.s. if you CAN help her and she allows you to help her, more power to you!
Well... I am sorry you feel that way. Just be her friend for now. A lot of girls can't just bounce back after a relationship even a abusive one! Show her that you are okay with that.Even though you may hurt inside. Send her some flower and a card tell her that you are there for her. She will see that you are not anything like her ex. She may start to think that you are the greatest person and may like you for more than a friend.
ok tis is what you can do. go and talk to her about what she might want and if she tells you that she want you then listen to her, she's not lieing to you if she says that to you. and dif she says that she wants her ex-boyfriend back then if you love her you will let her go back because it's what she wants to do








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  • How would you feel if your ex slept with the people who robbed you of $200 & sent you to the emergency room?

    I was viciously attacked, beaten, and robbed of $200. I was covered in blood from head-to-toe and taken by ambulance to the emergency room suffering from a dislocated shoulder, broken nose, black eye, and facial lacerations.





    The emergency room visit cost $6500 alone. My health insuarance was billed $15,000 fro mall the rehab, etc.





    I had to spend months in physical therapy to rehabilitate my painful dislocated shoulder.





    Anyways, my ex lives in the same neighborhood where i was violently attacked and robbed. He actually saw me covered in blood from head-to-toe waiting for the ambulance at the gas station, but he abandoned me at the gas station claiming he ';had to work tomorrow.';





    He never called to see how i was that entire week.





    Anyways, I found out my ex invited the people who ';set me up'; to get jumped into his home to party. These are the same people who KNEW i was going to get jumped and said nothing. M yex invited them all into his HOME to party with them, and smoke weed together with them, and LAUGH about what happened to me.








    This is just DAYS after I was attacked and almost killed. My ex even had sex with one of them!








    Not only was I viciously atacked and robbed, I now suffer from Post Traumatic Stres Disorder.





    How would you feel if your ex treated you that way and did all that to you?How would you feel if your ex slept with the people who robbed you of $200 %26amp; sent you to the emergency room?
    personally, i would want to kill him. that is awful someone would do that to you. next time, find a better person to date. how could he just leave you at a gas station?How would you feel if your ex slept with the people who robbed you of $200 %26amp; sent you to the emergency room?
    i should think it feels awful. keep well away from him and them other people, don't even give them time of day they are not worth is, don't let them know or see how badly it has effected you as they will like that, the biggest thing you can do is show them how strong you are. so what if he slept with one of them, your well rid, move on be strong x
    Pretty shitty.
    Absolutely nothing because an ex is an ex, but if he did have something to do with it then a War starts.

    Rebound and ex very confused?

    I recently seperated from my fiance about 3 months ago, during that time I guess I got lonely and started seeing this other guy. I never gotten completely over my ex even though I seperated from him because of cheating issues on his part. I still love him and want to be with him its just a matter of rebuild the trust if I can and Ive been afraid to give it another try. He keeps telling me he has changed and he wants to be with me. He never physically cheated on me but he had online flirting relationships with women, recieving inappropriate pictures. Now I have this other guy in the picture and he is so sweet to me and he is so much fun to be around he could be a great boyfriend, he is trying to be patient. I really like him at the same time and would like to get to know him better I just dont know how I would fit in his life he is twice my age. I feel like I have made a mess I am torn between two guys. I like him yet I still love my ex, and I dont know who to move forward with.Rebound and ex very confused?
    Follow your heart...and do the right thing... you know deep down inside who you REALLY want.Rebound and ex very confused?
    Wait! Just because he didn't physically cheat, he emotionally cheated--just as bad and remember, if he'll cheat emotionally, he will most likely cheat physically. So don't try to excuse his actions, which you are doing.





    I think you don't understand that for a guy to ';change'; is not easy and they just take their cheating covert. So, you will find it very difficult to trust him again and it will take lots of time to have him prove himself again.





    I think your ';rebound'; sounds like a great guy, too bad he is a rebound. That is a very immature thing to do to another person, so I feel for him since you said he is great.





    My opinion is this; dump the ex and tell the rebound that you want to take things slow, but you still want to take things down a path of getting to know each other.





    After that, if rebound is still patient, I suggest you really get over the ex and start to heal and move on. Counseling, talk therapy, would be good for you to get this out and see what an unbiased person says too.
    Forget the ex, look for the next.





    The dude twice your age isn't after your youth, he is after his own..doesn't seem like a great option either.





    I think you should start completely from scratch.





    Be single for awhile and itll be a matter of time youll find someone new. without all the drama and the weight of the past.





    a completely new start. :)

    Seeing My Ex-Bf, 1st Time In Months?! HELP!!!?

    Okay, so tomorrow I'm seeing my ex-boyfriend again, the first time in 2 months. We dated seven months, he called it quits although the feeling was mutual. He wanted ';to see other people.';


    He has a new girlfriend, they have been dating for a few weeks. She is really rude %26amp; nasty to me. My Ex even told me she hated me, because she thought I was a threat.


    We have been talking more lately, %26amp; he went as far as to say that he ';hopes we can get back together someday';. As well as play flirts with me (through text %26amp; over the phone) He still sticks up for his girlfriend with annoys me a bit, I would have no problem with her if she didn't treat me so bad.


    Anyways, I'm seeing him tomorrow over a mutual friend's get-together.


    May sound silly, but I don't know how to act or what to say.


    I'm afraid it might be awkward.


    His girlfriend won't be there btw.





    Thank You!


    *Hayley(:Seeing My Ex-Bf, 1st Time In Months?! HELP!!!?
    hey hayley, u might not like wat im about to say but please dont make the same stupid mistake i did thinkin ur ex still hoped something would still happen btween u2, however i believed that and like u he had a nu gf and always stuck up for her. he wanted us to spend the rest of our lives together yet he would go home to her txtn me and telln me i was the onli 1 for him and he ***** wait to c me. hes playin u jus lik my ex im sorry sweetie but i dont want u to get hurt the way i did i was a mess after we broke up and it didnt help that he was doin this. ul meet someone else. move on. u mite think tht yeh easier z than done and yeh its not gna b easy but i cn now look at my ex and think wt did i ever c in u? and 1 day thtl happen 4 u. im nt sayn its gna b easy but dnt let him put u bk to square 1..





    good luck chick xxSeeing My Ex-Bf, 1st Time In Months?! HELP!!!?
    Just try to be friendly and natural, don't try to hard to force anything. Don't be flirty with him though because that would make you look pretty pathetic knowing he has a girlfriend.

    How would you feel if your ex slept with the people who robbed you of $200 & sent you to the emergency room?

    I was viciously attacked, beaten, and robbed of $200. I was covered in blood from head-to-toe and taken by ambulance to the emergency room suffering from a dislocated shoulder, broken nose, black eye, and facial lacerations.





    The emergency room visit cost $6500 alone. My health insuarance was billed $15,000 fro mall the rehab, etc.





    I had to spend months in physical therapy to rehabilitate my painful dislocated shoulder.





    Anyways, my ex lives in the same neighborhood where i was violently attacked and robbed. He actually saw me covered in blood from head-to-toe waiting for the ambulance at the gas station, but he abandoned me at the gas station claiming he ';had to work tomorrow.';





    He never called to see how i was that entire week.





    Anyways, I found out my ex invited the people who ';set me up'; to get jumped into his home to party. These are the same people who KNEW i was going to get jumped and said nothing. M yex invited them all into his HOME to party with them, and smoke weed together with them, and LAUGH about what happened to me.








    This is just DAYS after I was attacked and almost killed. My ex even had sex with one of them!








    Not only was I viciously atacked and robbed, I now suffer from Post Traumatic Stres Disorder.





    How would you feel if your ex treated you that way and did all that to you?How would you feel if your ex slept with the people who robbed you of $200 %26amp; sent you to the emergency room?
    He is a sociopath. They have the inability to appreciate other's feelings. Have nothing further to do with any of them. They have proved to you who they all are -and they will do this again. Cut him out of your life, move to a new neighborhood or city, and never have anything to do with them again. THEY WILL NOT CHANGE. They will continue to victimize you as long as you are available. Exit their world.How would you feel if your ex slept with the people who robbed you of $200 %26amp; sent you to the emergency room?
    How do you think? You have to ask how people would feel? How did it make YOU feel? Probably that's how it would make most people feel, don't you think?
    Well, he really hates you and is stupid with the weed and I have to wonder what he did with his share of the $200 and what does this have to do with Philosophy? Better in psychology?
    Sounds like you need to be a bit more careful when you chose your friends.





    Love and blessings Don
    i would be pissed off
    i would thank god he was my ex and not current.
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  • My boyfriend found out im Bi... hes mad?

    Ok, well me and my bf have been dating a while and recently he found out im bi because one of my good friends came up from georgia to visit me and asked about my ex in front of him. He laughed at first but when i started to tell her about how Chrissy was he got mad asking me all sorts of questions and calling me a lesbian. I know im not a full lesbian and i only went out with one girl for a few weeks. That was a few years ago and it was way before i had even met him. Hes now questioning my morality and values and told me he had to think about our relationship and how he doesnt know if he can handle going out with a bi or even ex bi ( i dont really date girls anymore) girl. Im furious that he even CARES that i was bi and i just dont know what to do. I know its a touchy subject but advice would help. ThanksMy boyfriend found out im Bi... hes mad?
    You should dump him first for being so ignorant.My boyfriend found out im Bi... hes mad?
    just dump his @$$ and hook up with a girl in front of him to further add insult to injury.





    besides most guys would be glad to know that his girlfriend is bi. you know seeing your girlfriend kiss another girl to turn you on kind of thing.





    so yeah just dump him.
    apparently he doesnt love you. he is ignorant (Im surprised he is not turned on by two women kissing). he doesnt deserve you. and who the hell does he think he is to be insulting you. is that what you call a man?
    Your not an ';ex bi'; you were either straight and experimenting or you are bi and just don't date woman because your with a man. Thats ridiculous, I would break up with him for being an ignorant biggot. Lol. Thats just me.
    idk how to help but thats what happends when i tell boys that want to go with me i got a gf...i tell them i m bi and they still be mad and just stop talking to me...LOl....dnt knw what they problem is
    I feel as if that he should not consider as being a bi-sexual and just move the relationship forward. He should remember the good times that you guys shared and move on.
    If he can't accept you for who you are, he doesn't deserve you.
    well first your not an ex bi.


    Your either straight, gay, or bi.


    Second you should dump him because he is an @ss
    dump him


    he's a d-bag


    =]
    Eh what a zealous moron.
    Then dump him. He's obviously shallow and not worth your time.





    You can't question someone's morality or values based on their ex's. How many ex's does he have? Were they all good moral upright christians? Somehow I doubt it.





    Let him know you're still the same person you were five minutes before your friend came to town. If he can't accept it, tell him to pack up his negativity and move on with life, because it's not going to improve from there.
    A man who would judge you for that is not a good person to be in a relationship with. My boyfriend has no problem with my pansexuality, and my bi best friend's boyfriend is fine with her orientation. There are better men (and women) out there. Find someone who respects you and appreciates your love rather than going ballistic over feelings you've had for other people. Unless you told him you were bi because you were breaking up with him for a girl, which isn't what happened, how was it even relevant to the relationship?
    that would be a massive shock for him. u should offer him to have a 3som with u and another chick haha he wont say no..

    How would you feel if your ex slept with the people who robbed you of $200 & sent you to the emergency room?

    I was viciously attacked, beaten, and robbed of $200. I was covered in blood from head-to-toe and taken by ambulance to the emergency room suffering from a dislocated shoulder, broken nose, black eye, and facial lacerations.





    The emergency room visit cost $6500 alone. My health insuarance was billed $15,000 fro mall the rehab, etc.





    I had to spend months in physical therapy to rehabilitate my painful dislocated shoulder.





    Anyways, my ex lives in the same neighborhood where i was violently attacked and robbed. He actually saw me covered in blood from head-to-toe waiting for the ambulance at the gas station, but he abandoned me at the gas station claiming he ';had to work tomorrow.';





    He never called to see how i was that entire week.





    Anyways, I found out my ex invited the people who ';set me up'; to get jumped into his home to party. These are the same people who KNEW i was going to get jumped and said nothing. M yex invited them all into his HOME to party with them, and smoke weed together with them, and LAUGH about what happened to me.








    This is just DAYS after I was attacked and almost killed. My ex even had sex with one of them!








    Not only was I viciously atacked and robbed, I now suffer from Post Traumatic Stres Disorder.





    How would you feel if your ex treated you that way and did all that to you?How would you feel if your ex slept with the people who robbed you of $200 %26amp; sent you to the emergency room?
    There are no words to describe how furious I'd be. I'm sorry this happened to you. Your ex is scum.How would you feel if your ex slept with the people who robbed you of $200 %26amp; sent you to the emergency room?
    I'd feel that he was not ';EX'; enough. If at all possible, I'd relocate so far away that every one of those people would be forever out of my life.
    Sounds to me like he was in on it.


    Inform the police who are investigating your case about this information.
    What a B***h, sorry man

    New girlfriend but can't remove ex from my life?

    Mmm, well I got a new girlfriend I've been going out with her for a month now. My ex just recently broke up with me last month also, we were going out for about 8 months.





    Well everything is fine with my new girlfriend, my ex even has a new boyfriend but for some reason I can't get her out of my mind still, it's all really confusing. Me and my ex have fought multiple times over the last month trying to rid eachother from eachothers lives but it never works cause I either end up calling/texting her or she calls/texts me. She's been depressed for the last 2 weeks and I asked her how I could help, ';I just need you here tonight.'; I mean...I'm not trying to cheat on my new girlfriend I do like her but honestly I feel so attached to my ex and she's the same with me...Do you think she's worth getting back together with or should I forget her forever?


    (Being just friends with her feels totally out of the question.)New girlfriend but can't remove ex from my life?
    That's the way it can be. You need to talk and agree on what you both REALLY want.New girlfriend but can't remove ex from my life?
    Dude trust me. Forget her. You will just go around in circles. Move Forward and don't look back.
    Just Look foward for better days ....





    Forget about the past live now !!!









    no it's time and force of will to forget

    Need help to get over EX completely, totally depressed !?

    I need some advices to get over this depressing mood im having becoz ive been thinking alot of my EX even though I told him 2 weeks back that we should absolve from this r/s totally. He has been a violent %26amp; verbally abusive person after 6 months of knowing him. He used to be nice %26amp; sweet until one short quarrel sparked it all and I got punched oy right arm that got really bruised. I didnt reported him coz he just started his new job %26amp; i didnt want to get him into trouble.





    Recently, he got me pregnant. Insisted that i aborted it so that we can still continue our future. The strange thing was having stayed with him the past year, i didnt get pregnant and now that we are apart and seemed that he only meet me for sex, i accidentaly got it. We are both 31 by the way.





    After considering much options, i decided to keep the baby and probably go back to exhubby who is still treating me well, and now that he knows im with child, he even went with me to get some maternity wear. I know for sure my child will be in better hands with my exhubby than with this EX ! But yet, i couldn't get myself to hate or not think about this jerk. When it rains or shines, i would wonder if hes coping alright etc. I dont know WHY im feeling this way and im so tempted to send him a text msg which i didn't of course.





    Im wondering how would a BOY like him not show me any basic kind of care %26amp; concern to me. And he said it is thru sex he could feel my love ! I was really hurt by that remark.





    I really want to move on without thinking about this jerk anymore, but i cant help it that hes always at the back of my head... :(





    Advices pls....Need help to get over EX completely, totally depressed !?
    I don't think I needed to read past the first 3 sentences....FORGET HIM!!! He hurt you, why would you want to stay with him?


    What do you think could happen if he hurt you while you are pregnant?





    He sounds very selfish too...A baby is a miracle, even if it is not planned, you just have to deal with it, not abort it so you can live out your lives the way you wanted too...


    You made the first right decision by not doing what he wanted and aborting your baby. Now do the Last right decision and leave him for good.





    Sounds like your ex will be there for you....As long as he wasn't the same type of guy...





    Good Luck!Need help to get over EX completely, totally depressed !?
    hunny this guy is an absoulute piece of **** and deserves to not only lose his job he deserves to be shitkicked and raped excuse me for my laungage but i HATE women beaters and assholes definetly go back with your old hubby and instead of thinkin of this docebag just think of how happy you are without him p.s. dont ever let a man use you for sex again
    If your exhubby reads this, he will be pissed. I know I would.
    Personally I feel that it is not that you can't get over him but it is more of the fact that you are pregnant with his child. You hope that when the child is born, he is with his own father. But to me if both of you be together just because of the kid, it may cause more damage than good.


    You need to tell yourself that you can live without the jerk and move on with your life. I believe you should have a good rest during this stage where the kid is your priority

    I dont know what to do my EX wants me back?

    Ok so a couple weeks ago i broke up w/ my ex bc i caught her talk to her ex boyfriend multiple time and not just ';hey how are you' but things like i love you, i miss you, one time she even told him that she was single. and she talk to other guys just bc she likes the attention, she admitted that. i just grew so tired of it, it was so wrong and unfair. she says its all bc her first bf messed her head up so bad so now she craves attention from guys bc he never gave her any. But after a couple of time of pouring my heart out and tellin her how much that she hurt me by sayin those things to her ex bf, she continued to do it so i had to break it off.





    when i first broke it off i knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that i hoped she would change and we could work it out. of course i was down and missed her like crazy. but after a little while i felt better and like i was ready to just move on. So about a week ago she started callin again alot saying how much see missed me and is sorry. so we started hangin out some again, she says she will change and that she knows she needs to fix things.





    I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. im really stuck. sometimes i think just go and move on she wont change. then i think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good. Its just tough bc now when we hang out all i can think about is oh great who is she talking to now.





    She has started seeing a pyschiatrist since she knows she has some issues and she ';says'; that one of the main things she talks about with them is how she likes attention and how she keeps talkin to her ex even though she has no true feelings for him. I dunno what to do, it seems like she really wants to fix things but who knows if she will and if so how long will i have to wait around for it.


    I thought about just givin it a rest w/ her for a while so she can get herself straight. i just feel like its now or never though. like we will be too far down are own paths later on to work anything outI dont know what to do my EX wants me back?
    Don't do it. Ex's are ex's for a reason. It is possible for an ex to change, but it takes time. They need time to realize the error of their ways and to suffer the consequences of their actions so that they don't ever want to repeat the same mistakes. Enough time hasn't lapsed for her to change. If you take her back now, you're just showing her that she can do whatever she wants and you'll still be there.





    Date other people and try not to thing about her. Give her time to realize that she can't disrespect those she loves and still expect them to be there for her. If it's meant to be it'll be...eventually.








    ETA - I didn't read all your details before but now i see you say that you've already given it time. It sounds like she wants to change. If you feel like you've given it enough time (and by time, i mean @ least a few months), then give her another chance. But let her now she can't talk to ex's or disrespect your feelings anymore. Good luck!I dont know what to do my EX wants me back?
    I have seen information on how to get your ex back here:





    http://www.get-your-ex-back.info





    But your case is totally different from that. However, the interesting part was that a friend of mine had actually got his ex back using their e-book.





    At that time, I had got to see what was written in the e-book. And THAT is why I am answering this.





    And to me it seems (in the context, taking my knowledge forward from what I read) that you would want to give it a good shot. If you can apply the right techniques, it would work with a nice positive outcome.





    Cheers!

    Back w/ Ex. still issues.?

    Ok.. i went out with my GF for 3 years. few months ago she started acting funny. we argues a lot and all of sudden she stopped talking to without letting me know that she needed a space, after calling, email, texting non stop for a week, she finally told me that she needed a space. i said okay. and stop reaching out to her. then 3 for my female friends stated hitting on me. she got jealous and started talking crap.





    After 2 months apart, we now going out again. But she is been acting cold and distance, i am the one that does everything telling her how much i love her, taking her to places, doing things to her. when she is around me she is always in a up tight and upset mood, but whenever she is around her friends she is her normal person.





    Recently, i started acting funny too. distancing my self, not calling her as much, not texting at all, not saying i love her or whatever... i am trying to make things work, but i can't help the way she is been treating me. it;s like the love is there but the romance is death or something.. she is been calling me a lot lately asking me if i was ok? and why i'm acting the way i am?





    and it's funny that i found out that she was talking to one of her EX's while we weren't together. her ex even came to see her at her house. and she was pissed that this girls were talking to me. when i confronted her about her Ex, she said it shouldn't count cuz we weren't together,, but yet she is being a ***** for me talking to my female friends.





    what do you think i should do? what do you make out of all this issue? please helpBack w/ Ex. still issues.?
    Both of you should save yourselves and get out.





    You are both young and you will both be much happier apart.





    Love will always come with a certain amount of drama; but it's not supposed to be stressful.





    It sounds as if you two are holding on to a dead relationship, and are unable to enjoy each other.





    It also sounds as if your lady is controlling and manipulative.


    She doesn't want you for herself; but she won't allow anyone else to have you either.





    You're too young for that.


    Get out.

    How do you win back your ex girlfriend, even if it seems hopeless?

    Me and my ex-girlfriend were in an amazing relationship, for 1 year and 3 months. There was so much love and fun and everything good! But in the past recent months, things grew a little stale where we still loved each other very much, but we never knew what to talk about. And we also got into arguements every now and then.





    When she broke up with me, she said I was needy, and that I had these ocasional moodswings that would push her away. She says I stressed her out. But I changed so much for her. The only reason I always wanted to hang out with her was because she was always so busy, and if she would go so long without asking to hang out, I'd get upset because I would feel like she doesn't want to spend time with me. And I made a promise to change, and I really feel like I did. I love her soooo much. And I know she loves me too. But I feel like all she remembers are the bad times and not the good. There's too much to explain right now, but those are the basics of the situation.





    It's only been a week since we broke up, but one of her friends who is also good friends with me said that my ex girlfriend moved on. I just don't believe that someone can move on from such a loving relationship in a week. She we see each other in school, we would say hi to each other and everything. And she said we would talk, but she doesn't make an effort to. She sometimes has half smiles or full smiles when she waves at me, but not much else goes on.





    I just need some hope. What can I do to make her come back? I really do believe we're meant to be together. I can't imagine myself without her. I love her too much to just simply let go.





    I've heard of ';No contact'; , be positive around her, always smile, give it time, and pretend like nothing is wrong. Is there anything else I should know? Maybe from a girls perspective, what would make you come back? I don't want to admit it, but I'm heartbroken, and will take any advice. Thank you so much.How do you win back your ex girlfriend, even if it seems hopeless?
    move on , by what i said ';move on'; i meant meet new people specially another girls , and let her see that , at the same time stay normal and less than normal with her , dont be overwhelmed when see her. when she will see you with another girls one of 2 things will happen : being jealous and if she want serious about it she wont stand it anymore and come back to you , if she asked you later why were you doing that , tell her its only because you saw that she moved on , the second case she wont care, if that happened be sure that she never loved you . but dont be sad because its better to know now more knowing later . both ways you are a winner . believe me there is no girl or even a guy can stand seeing the one he/she love with some body else specially if it was obvious that ur having fun. another thing , she might be doing that because she wanted to teach you a lesson to be calm when she ignoring you and when she is busy , what you have to do is to get busy with some1 else, after a while tell her that youve done that to show her that what she have done hurt you , and youve done that becuase you love her , she wont understand it in another way.


    good luck :)

    Ex Problems, need advice?

    Is it possible to fall in love with someone after 2months, break up with them and still wanna be with them 3months later? Even tho you no, you tell yourself that she wasnt worth your time, that you could do better, find someone else that just might love you for who you are and NOT who you MIGHT be





    Is it possibe to still love someone who never made the time to see you, call you and was allways busy doing un-important things, meeting up with other guys or just crying to you about her Ex even tho you hadnt heard or spoken to her in the last 2days





    If so how? If so why, how can we love such a person, was it love or was that what i told myself to help me get threw a dark period of time in my life. I might only be 18, stressed and confused about her, telling myself that i never loved her, that i hated her but do i really?





    Was i ever in love with herEx Problems, need advice?
    It is very normal to have those feelings, you know that the person isn't the right one for you, but your heart is telling you a different story.

    Me and my ex of 1 and a half years split up about 7 weeks ago.?

    I went on the rebound 5 days after we broke up and stupidly ended up getting involved with a girl for about 3 weeks. We slept together etc. I wasnt all that into her and at the time i was still in contact with my ex even though it broke her heart to know what i was doing. We confessed we still loved each other very much and we ended up sleeping together. I broke up with this girl i was seeing the day after this. Me and my ex decided to not officially get back together but we spent a lot of time together discussing how we would take things slowly, how much we loved each other and about our future together etc this was great for 2 weeks. she then goes on a night out and kisses this guy friend of hers, goes back to his and messes around though she swears she never slept with him. this guy has always liked her, and she admits she liked him before we went out, she was even txting him when we were together. Shes sorry but im really struggling as i thought we were getting better. any advice?Me and my ex of 1 and a half years split up about 7 weeks ago.?
    I'm sorry to hear this. It is very heartbreaking. Talk to her and find out exactly what she wants. Tell her you don't have time for games, but you are in love with her and want to be with her still. You need to know what she wants before you can move forward. Good luck. Hope this helpedMe and my ex of 1 and a half years split up about 7 weeks ago.?
    A relationship without trust is going to fail no matter what. You have both ruined each other's trust in this short amount of time, and it's clear your both too shady and immature in how you handle problems in this relationship. Stop playing around with the idea of getting back together, and use this as an opportunity to have a fresh start. You two seem to be failing miserably at making this work
    Well I believe that the two of you should specify what seeing each other means like be clear as to what to expect and what not to expect. Then move on from there . Whats gonna happen the more time you to spend together the emotionally tied you staying which can create more problems in the future!
    Um...if this girl ';kisses this guy friend of hers'; then I doubt she has any feelings for you. Girls can say ';i'm sorry'; in many different ways with different meanings such as ';i'm sorry...but I don't like you as much as I used to';. I say don't get your hopes up and maybe do the same on her, make out with a different girl and see how SHE likes it.
    Sounds like you both need to stop rushing (back) into relationships. Decide whether you want to work things through together, and commit to doing that without any outside distractions, or take some time to really be single and figure out what you want before you try again.
    Go with what you think's best. If you think you should back off then do. Ask her about it and what's going on. She said she loves you, she probably does and maybe got drunk on her night out or something. Just see how it goes and if this other guy gets in the way, then have a chat about it. :)
    That really was uncool of her to do.


    She says she loves you, but if she did she wouldnt have done that to you.


    I think its best you move on and go your seperate ways.
    You slept with a stranger, she only kissed a guy friend, what do you think now ? Forget a harmless kiss, she forgave your escapade,yes ? keep trying to stay together. it seems correct.
    she says she didnt go all the way and she prob didnt


    u say you sleeping with other while u were broke up hurt her


    maybe she intended to pay you back, but when it came to it she couldnt


    talk to her and either believe her or walk away
    even a kiss is to much if she took u bak after she knew wot u did then its her fault, dont take her back just cos she did with u. women who cheat should be shot...
    RUN RUN RUN RUN FROM HER................
    once a cheater always a cheater, If she loved you she would not have hooked up with him at all
    shes not ready. she kind of into that guy. There is still that attraction
    nope
    tell her tha you dont feel comfortable if u need anymore advice email me at cutebratof2006@yahoo.com
    what goes around comes around.............ain't karma a *****!!!
    Ok, You just did the same thing and girls and guys can stay the night in the same bed without having sex. If you both decided not to see other people then there is a problem otherwise she is giving you exactly what you asked for some space but still keeping in touch.





    I'll give you a story maybe it will make you feel some better.





    So I date this guy off and on for about half a year. Well we break up at the end of summer because he is going to a school several states away from the one I'll be going to and long distance relationships can be tough. Well we still have feelings for each other I thought and he does a disappearing act no contact with me for about 2 months. He shows up around october and starts talking to me again and we get the same feelings we always do... We decide to go back out because he is home for the holidays. After christmas ends we decide once again to put things on hold and stay in contact with each other (we were talking to each other everyday sometimes for 4+ hours at this time). Well a week passes and I hear nothing from him he calls me up drunk and tells me how sorry he is. This happens 3 times. I talk to him sober once because I decided to call (he only called while drunk) I tell him look I've been turning down guys because I still have feelings for you should I consider other relationships (move on)? he says yes go ahead I it will be go for us to see other people. So i do and I've been with the same guy for 6 months no problems at all so far. My previous bf calls this summer and gets upset with me. He said we should consider other people... but apparently he did this so I wouldn't ';miss out';. I told him well you knew there was a chance that I'd find someone and I had to move on you dissapeard and seemed competely uninterested. I will always love him, but it is a different kind of love and I felt I wasn't being treated well. He never moved on, but he old me I should. Be careful what you say because she may interprit it differently...





    This is all from the females point of view remember, but it may give you some thoughts.

    DepreSSed over EX....how can I really move on, at all..?

    I need some advices to get over this depressing mood im having becoz ive been thinking alot of my EX even though I told him 2 weeks back that we should absolve from this r/s totally. He has been a violent %26amp; verbally abusive person after 6 months of knowing him. He used to be nice %26amp; sweet until one short quarrel sparked it all and I got punched oy right arm that got really bruised. I didnt reported him coz he just started his new job %26amp; i didnt want to get him into trouble.





    Recently, he got me pregnant. Insisted that i aborted it so that we can still continue our future. The strange thing was having stayed with him the past year, i didnt get pregnant and now that we are apart and seemed that he only meet me for sex, i accidentaly got it. We are both 31 by the way.





    After considering much options, i decided to keep the baby and probably go back to exhubby who is still treating me well, and now that he knows im with child, he even went with me to get some maternity wear. I know for sure my child will be in better hands with my exhubby than with this EX ! But yet, i couldn't get myself to hate or not think about this jerk. When it rains or shines, i would wonder if hes coping alright etc. I dont know WHY im feeling this way and im so tempted to send him a text msg which i didn't of course.





    Im wondering how would a BOY like him not show me any basic kind of care %26amp; concern to me. And he said it is thru sex he could feel my love ! I was really hurt by that remark.





    I really want to move on without thinking about this jerk anymore, but i cant help it that hes always at the back of my head... :(





    Advices pls....DepreSSed over EX....how can I really move on, at all..?
    Hun, it sounds like having your ex in the back of your head is nothing to the things you would be going through had you stayed with him. You need to think about your kid and pick the more stable guy if only for them. It takes time but there ARE better people out there for you. Work on getting angry, you should get there eventually, but you need to love yourself and put yourself and your child ahead of your ex. DepreSSed over EX....how can I really move on, at all..?
    Jus *** him hes such a bastard he dont deserve you


    Can someone please help me


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    You need some alone time and WAKE UP !


    Why are you jumping from one looser back to another you broke up with already , You are so unstable ,......TAKE A BREAK , YOU DON'T NEED ANYONE !
    This man seems to want his fun but does not want any commitment with you.He's so afraid of you being pregnant.Why? Coz you are not his choice of a serious partner but for fun. With pregnancy, it spells responsibilities. For a man who is not even serious about relationships in the 1st place, ofcourse he will want to opt out. He even want you to murder his own child! What kind of a devil can he be!??He's a real nasty BOY, not man! Be glad this scum is out of your life for good!You are best with your ex-hubby. This should be a lesson for you to realise who is the real MAN for you!
    I have never been if that type of relationship but trust me I have seen plenty... The reason you are having such a hard time getting over him is because you treated you so bad... Its hard to get over them because you feel uncompleted... He hurt you more then just physically... I don't have the answer of getting over him but what i do know is that time really does cure everything... Just stay away from him avoid him at all cost... don't go looking at old pictures or listing to old voice mails... Just erase him... Trust me I know its hard but it eventually works... And just focus on all the bad things about him!!! well I hope that helps...
    It's ok to think about your ex sometimes (even though he turned into an ******). If it's taking over your life, try to find something else to focus on. Start a new hobby or class or activity that you enjoy, alone, with your friends, or with your current bf/husband. Keep yourself busy in a healthy and positive way, and it'll help alot. Beyond that, don't beat yourself up over it. Avoid contacting him though. If you want to, call somebody else. Or ask a friend if when you get tempted to contact him if you can call her instead. As long as you don't abuse the priviledge, she'll probably be ok with this.
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  • So me and my ex boyfriend broke up a year ago, why do i still get butterflies when i hear his name?

    i have a current boyfriend now (of 1 whole year of being together!)





    but every time i hear something about my ex, i get so happy.


    im not stupid, so i know better to hide my joy around others when they randomly decide to bring him up.


    it feel this excitement and happiness, as if i were still in love with him.





    INSIDER


    hes the type of guy who doesnt like to make any contact why hes ex's (no nothing, as if we were never together)





    i think truly deep down. . . i miss him. his personality and everything else.





    i also SLIGHTLY envy how my friends are able to make direct contact with him (since they have classes with him), and give me the sloppy seconds of the conversations they have.





    not jealousy.


    dont get me wrong, i love my boyfriend, but i just miss talking to my ex. even if we were just and remained friends, i would be so gratefully happy.





    (theres no possible way i can even TRY to talk to him)So me and my ex boyfriend broke up a year ago, why do i still get butterflies when i hear his name?
    it sounds like your ex was your first real bf and he will always be ';that boy'; for you!


    all girls will meet that guy in their life and there's honestly nothing you can do about it! just set it aside and continue on with your life. things will eventually change and those feelings will change!So me and my ex boyfriend broke up a year ago, why do i still get butterflies when i hear his name?
    My ex and I broke up a few months ago, and I honestly want nothing to do with her at all anymore. I don't want to see her ever again. That being said, I still love her and care about her more than I wish I did. I would do anything for her.





    It's hard to turn it off, huh?
    Because you're a woman

    I cant seem to get over my ex at all please helpp me!?

    Alright so i was with my ex bf for a year and a half, and we broke up a month ago. We have a 3 month old daughter as well. Even though he treated me bad most of the time, (he has a form of autism) i still loved him with alll my heart and soul, and when we broke up i was so crushed. And now im dating this totally amazing guy who treats me 10000 times better than he did, and cares for me alot. And even though i like him alot as well, i cant seem to get over my ex. Even though he tells me that hes been doing stuff with other girls...etc. I just still love him SO much, even though he wont be with me for pretty much no reason. Please, how do i get over him and what should i do?I cant seem to get over my ex at all please helpp me!?
    I agree with Tori K! If you know your being treated better then its probably for the best. Sometimes you need more than ';the love';.I cant seem to get over my ex at all please helpp me!?
    its gonna take time try to give urself some u time, go to a spa or somethin, by some new clothes do something to help u feel like ur a new person. once u do that maybe youll be able to feel like u can move on
    just try to get over him by devoting yourself to the nice guy, it will be for the best.

    So me and my ex boyfriend broke up a year ago, why do i still get butterflies when i hear his name?

    i have a current boyfriend now (of 1 whole year of being together!)





    but every time i hear something about my ex, i get so happy.


    im not stupid, so i know better to hide my joy around others when they randomly decide to bring him up.


    it feel this excitement and happiness, as if i were still in love with him.





    INSIDER


    hes the type of guy who doesnt like to make any contact why hes ex's (no nothing, as if we were never together)





    i think truly deep down. . . i miss him. his personality and everything else.





    i also SLIGHTLY envy how my friends are able to make direct contact with him (since they have classes with him), and give me the sloppy seconds of the conversations they have.





    not jealousy.


    dont get me wrong, i love my boyfriend, but i just miss talking to my ex. even if we were just and remained friends, i would be so gratefully happy.





    (theres no possible way i can even TRY to talk to him)So me and my ex boyfriend broke up a year ago, why do i still get butterflies when i hear his name?
    You're not over him. Better to move on.

    HELP. Broke up Now my EX wants me back, don't know if i should?

    Ok so a couple weeks ago i broke up w/ my ex bc i caught her talk to her ex boyfriend multiple time and not just ';hey how are you' but things like i love you, i miss you, one time she even told him that she was single. and she talk to other guys just bc she likes the attention, she admitted that. i just grew so tired of it, it was so wrong and unfair. she says its all bc her first bf messed her head up so bad so now she craves attention from guys bc he never gave her any. But after a couple of time of pouring my heart out and tellin her how much that she hurt me by sayin those things to her ex bf, she continued to do it so i had to break it off.





    when i first broke it off i knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that i hoped she would change and we could work it out. of course i was down and missed her like crazy. but after a little while i felt better and like i was ready to just move on. So about a week ago she started callin again alot saying how much see missed me and is sorry. so we started hangin out some again, she says she will change and that she knows she needs to fix things.





    I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. im really stuck. sometimes i think just go and move on she wont change. then i think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good. Its just tough bc now when we hang out all i can think about is oh great who is she talking to now.





    She has started seeing a pyschiatrist since she knows she has some issues and she ';says'; that one of the main things she talks about with them is how she likes attention and how she keeps talkin to her ex even though she has no true feelings for him. I dunno what to do, it seems like she really wants to fix things but who knows if she will and if so how long will i have to wait around for it.


    I thought about just givin it a rest w/ her for a while so she can get herself straight. i just feel like its now or never though. like we will be too far down are own paths later on to work anything outHELP. Broke up Now my EX wants me back, don't know if i should?
    seems as if u really want to take her back, no matter what. but if u do and it turns out badly, u have to be emotionally strong enough to end it right away. just make sure she keeps getting her therapy, and it is true if u wait too long u both might find someone new. but cheating is a bad thing, breaks hearts, only u can really decide what to do. but sometimes they keep cheating on u, and if they do its not someone u want in your life.HELP. Broke up Now my EX wants me back, don't know if i should?
    I just want to ask one question. How many times do you want to go through this heartache?
    your nuts if u go back to sweet thing
    She may be telling the truth about her having issues with needing constant attention, but this doesn't make the situation any better. Her actions have clearly been what I would call ';emotional'; cheating which isn't fair to you whether she is ';sick'; or not. Her telling you that she has a problem should be a red flag telling you that she isn't in any state to be in a committed relationship. Also, she may be trying to get you back because she wants...surprise..more attention! You don't have to be mean to her, but I would seriously consider telling her that you want her to continue to go to her psychiatrist and get things worked out with herself, and when the time comes and she is more stable then you guys can try to work things out. Until then you should try to let her get herself together on her own because if she really does have a clinical problem, you will probably just get in the way of her recovery and cause yourself a lot of heartache. If she really does care about you the way she says she does then she will understand and work hard to get back on the right track. If she doesn't understand, then you will have dodged a bullet.
    You have to take the risk of not getting back together. She needs to get her head together otherwise you are sending her the message that you will be there no matter what she does.

    She did things with her ex, that I haven't experienced before. How can I handle this situation?

    its about one or two months into my relationship with my girlfriend, she hinted/told me about certain sexual acts. like having sex in the pool, swallowing her ex, role playing sex, anal sex and especially having sex infront of the video camera. Her last boyfriend had talked her into having anal sex one night when she was drunk along with making her do other stuff like swallowing him (among other things she won't do with me) and she agreed to. First she said it happened just once, and then later she admitted ';that it happened more than alot of times...'; well, at first i was furious %26amp; dissappointed %26amp; mad %26amp; angry %26amp; sad all mixed into one. NOT necessarily because she had anal sex, but because she led me to believe that it only like happened once and it was no big deal to talk about it and now she says that she agreed to do it a good amount of times with her ex even though she didn't like it.


    After i settled down %26amp; swallowed my pride, i asked her if she did it because she really liked him, but she said ';not really'; and she says she doesn't really remember exactly when or how many times she did it..well this is where i am gonna sound insensitive, but the other reasons that i am frustrated are; i have never had anal sex, or had a girl swallow me, had sex in public like near her house by some old abounded building where from a distance there was people walking their dog, %26amp;%26amp; or role play sex or had sex in the pool or even had a sex tape (i def. wouldn't like that anyways so i wouldn't really care about that too much) I just have done the normal sex nothing adventurous or crazy and have always wanted to try and because i feel like, in some weird way, her ex was close to her in a way (or place) that i will never be able to be. Like there is some part of her that still belongs to their relationship. It hasn't been that long since our talk, but i just can't stop being bothered by the fact that her ex did something with her that i haven't done, or worse yet, that i want to do. Now before i get cussed out by everyone on this site, just know that i really care about her and don't want to make the situation worse. i had told her in the past that i sometimes thought about anal sex, but never wanted to try it because i remember her saying that she doesn't like it. Now i feel like a jerk because i can't stop thinking about all the ';uncomfortable'; things that she did with him, but won't do with me.





    So tell me, am i wrong for thinking this and what can i do to fix the situation on my end?She did things with her ex, that I haven't experienced before. How can I handle this situation?
    First, why in would someone reveal their secrets???? How does she value your relationship...not long term, nothing to lose by telling you. She could feel like you don't judge her so she can tell you. I think you should take your relationship for what it is. I've never had anal sex and I real don't care if i do...if it happens it happens. I think you still have a lot of oats to sow. Next time you might be the other guy. Don't hold it against her for stuff she did before y'all were together. You probably would have do the same thing as her. Dude your day will come just chillax. She might end up teaching you somethingShe did things with her ex, that I haven't experienced before. How can I handle this situation?
    LOL YOU'RE DATING A TOTAL WH0RE.
    LOL JR THAT WAS MEAN!!!!!
    first of all wow you wrote alot lol.





    You need to think about the situation differently, its her past. Things happen and you need to think about it if you really like her it shouldnt matter what she did in her past. people have different things in their past and you either have to get over them or move on.
    Hmmmm.





    It's natural, but if was her i would've kept it a secret until you might have asked me about.





    If she won't do those things with you, through time she might be willing to try again.





    But i really don't think so, with my BF, if we ever break up, the next guy i am with i really definitely not suck them off...simply b/c i don't like it, and i told my BF that.





    Really it's ok to be thinking all those things, your GF is a real freak IMO lol....





    Sorry for the rambling...i am half asleep.

    HELP. Broke up Now my EX wants me back, don't know if i should?

    Ok so a couple weeks ago i broke up w/ my ex bc i caught her talk to her ex boyfriend multiple time and not just ';hey how are you' but things like i love you, i miss you, one time she even told him that she was single. and she talk to other guys just bc she likes the attention, she admitted that. i just grew so tired of it, it was so wrong and unfair. she says its all bc her first bf messed her head up so bad so now she craves attention from guys bc he never gave her any. But after a couple of time of pouring my heart out and tellin her how much that she hurt me by sayin those things to her ex bf, she continued to do it so i had to break it off.





    when i first broke it off i knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that i hoped she would change and we could work it out. of course i was down and missed her like crazy. but after a little while i felt better and like i was ready to just move on. So about a week ago she started callin again alot saying how much see missed me and is sorry. so we started hangin out some again, she says she will change and that she knows she needs to fix things.





    I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. im really stuck. sometimes i think just go and move on she wont change. then i think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good. Its just tough bc now when we hang out all i can think about is oh great who is she talking to now.





    She has started seeing a pyschiatrist since she knows she has some issues and she ';says'; that one of the main things she talks about with them is how she likes attention and how she keeps talkin to her ex even though she has no true feelings for him. I dunno what to do, it seems like she really wants to fix things but who knows if she will and if so how long will i have to wait around for it.


    I thought about just givin it a rest w/ her for a while so she can get herself straight. i just feel like its now or never though. like we will be too far down are own paths later on to work anything outHELP. Broke up Now my EX wants me back, don't know if i should?
    You need to remember all the reasons why you broke up with her in the first place. But what is important here is that she knows that she has issues that she needs to deal with. And if she is seeing a psychiatrist then that means she wants to change her life around. You said you thought about just giving it a rest while she gets her life in order and you should. I think your ex needs space right now so she can sort out her feelings.





    I can tell that you are not sure if you should wait for this girl or not. My concern for you is that if you wait for this girl then you could get hurt all over again. The one thing that confuses me is that she never went to you to get more attention. She went to her ex and other guys instead. And for her to say that she craves attention because her first boyfriend had messed up her so bad is ridiculous. I honestly believe that she told you that because she got caught flirting with those guys. If this girl really loved you then the only person she needed around her to give her the attention that she needed would have been you. But she didn't go to you. I think there is more going on with her. So you are going to have to decide what is the best thing for you to do. My advice to you is to stay away from her until she can confirm that she has changed. It's too soon for her to tell you that she is going to change. I don't want to discourage you but sometimes some people just don't change. They can see a psychiatrist for years and they still don't change. So give her a chance to work on her problems and take it from there.HELP. Broke up Now my EX wants me back, don't know if i should?
    i can tell that you really love this girl, but seriously you don't deserve that kind of pain. The best thing i would advise you to do is to stay away from her until you truly feel like your over her, then you guys could be friends. But being in a relationship with her is poison, i should know because unfortunately i was like that. not anymore because i realised that it was messing up a great majority of my relationships however, it took me a VERY long untill realise this. the problem with her is that she is acting this way because she is veryinsecuree about herself and in turn is using not only you for attention but her ex and other men for attention just so she could verify a way to help seek out and solve these insecurities. please try to move on without her in your life. her journey to deal with her insecurities will take a long time she is a woman after all.
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  • Everybody asks at some point in their lives how to forget an ex...?

    and they usually get a set of guidelines to help them with their grief.


    e.i. going out with friends, *** other people and so on.





    But what do you do when you've done all of those things and still can't forget the ex and even in relationships you wish it were they?





    It's been 21/2yrs since he left, didn't stick around as long yet he's still alive in my mind so what could one do?Everybody asks at some point in their lives how to forget an ex...?
    It is difficult to move on, but we have to. No matter how much you miss someone, you need to stop and tell yourself this: “if he was meant for me, then we would be together now.”


    And it’s true.


    No matter how many lovely thoughts you have of him, or memories that keep you awake at night, this guy is probably not feeling the same as you, else he would be with you. For every tear that you shed over him, he probably hasn’t even given you a second thought. Sounds very harsh, I know, but it’s probably the truth, and you need to face this.


    The best way to move forward is to concentrate on yourself. Respect yourself and realise just how important you are! Write down all your best qualities on a piece of paper, and every time this guy pops into your head repeat all of those words. Eventually it will sink in: each time you think of this guy, you will remind yourself of your wonderful qualities, and before long, you will think “you know what? To the hell with this! I’m great, and if this guy doesn’t realise then he is losing out!” Every time you manage to push him out of your mind, reward yourself with treats, say perhaps an occasional luxurious massage, or getting your hair or nails done.


    It takes time, and you may continue to feel like you’re in love with this guy for the next ten years even, but sooner or later there will come a point where you get fed up with feeling like this towards this guy. Most probably it is just infatuation, and because you can’t have him, you want him more. And at the end of the day, if you were meant to be together, then you would.


    Just take things a day at a time. Building your confidence up is great too.


    Honestly, one day you will just wake up and feel fantastic, and feel silly for wasting so much time on an idiot like that. Do you think this man is important enough to make you feel sad and miserable whenever you think of him? No! Don’t let him have the power.


    There are a lot of fantastic guys out there too you know, and although you probably don’t want to admit it, they are probably ten times the man your ex was.


    Try and fill each day up with as much fun and happiness as you can, and one day you will be able to move on. It is only you that can move on. You have to make the choice: do I want to live the rest of my life? Or do I want to spend it crying over spilt milk? Because these tears are not affecting him one iota…only you.


    Believe in yourself, and you will be fine.


    Susanna XEverybody asks at some point in their lives how to forget an ex...?
    i'm going thru the same thing as you. one of the things to do is hope for a better future with a better person
    Don't let this drive you nuts. He sure isn't out there making himself sick. Who knows,he's over you and having a ball of his life?


    Is this what you like?





    Don't let this make you sick.(21/2 yrs) and much more.





    Move on!


    Life is strange.
    you can't always forget an ex..i can't forget mine from a year ago..cuz i loved him, %26amp;%26amp; he hasnt accepted that there's nomore us.so he's still tryna tlk to me.





    %26amp;%26amp; it makes it worse but i kno i'm through w/him.


    so i get by..he'll always be in the back of your mind..just get used to it..i had to.
    Well are you hooking up or dating other people? Hmm...the longest it took me was 2 years as well so maybe just stick around and someone good will come to you eventually.
    You have to love someone enough to let them go. If they don't come back Chuck Norris would hunt them down and kill them. But you need to move on and get rid of this unhealthy fixation.


    And thank god for unanswered prayers. Because the future will bring good things.
    I know what you are going through. It's been just over two years since my ex left me, and I think about him all the time. I've gotten to a point where I have made my peace with the whole situation though. I was really depressed when we broke up. I've come to realize, though, that no matter how much I still want him to be a part of my life, he won't be. I liked who I was when I was with him. He pulled me out of a bad time in my life and made me a better person. So even though I'm not with him anymore, he's with me.





    You just need time to heal. Some people make bigger impacts in our lives and leave a bigger void when they are gone.
    omg I just broke up with my x and your telling me your not over your x for 2 years. I feel kind of scared now. Well at least i hope I at least feel better after a while.





    I think its actually a mistake to go out and do stuff with other people because it just makes you feel worse or at least it would make me feel worse about myself.

    What can i do to get my ex back?

    I have a situation that i need help with. Ok, im with my ex again after two years, but during that time i had three relationships and two of them were not so good. One of the guys i dated, i fell in love with deeply, like im head over heels in love with him and he's in love with me just like i am. We break up because he thought we were going to fast so i ask him why and he said, he was too in love with me, so i leave it like that. My ex wanted me back so i went back to him even after all the crap i dealt with him, he broke my heart in ways i couldn't even imagine. I love my boyfriend but i love my ex even more then i do him, I want my ex back, but i don't think he'll take me back. I was planing to ask back out my ex after i graduate from high school, now all i want to know is, what can i do now, how can i get the love of my life back?What can i do to get my ex back?
    Hello





    Winning back your ex boyfriend is a very difficult thing to do. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you do the right things, and more importantly don't do the wrong things, your chances to win him back increase dramatically.





    if you desire to get your ex back check these 3 recommended steps:





    1.The first tip is to get your head straight. You need to get rid of these negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong.





    Don't let your emotion and of course your depression keep you down. You can't achieve a goal, if you can't keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Negative thoughts are destructive behavior and you need to avoid them.





    2.Don't annoy your ex boyfriend. Boys just don't like it when girls become obsessive about them. Especially ex boyfriends. You may want to seek comfort by hearing his voice or seeing his face, but if you really want him back, you must back off for a while. Don't continuously make phone calls to him, email him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. It's very important give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you and want you back. If you blow it, you may have a tougher time getting your ex boyfriend back.





    3.Become an object of desire. If you can, it's recommended to get some new makeup. You will also want to get some new clothes and a new hairstyle. If you've picked up a few pounds, start doing some exercises and eating healthy. When looking good on the outside, you're going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. If you will feel good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you're confident and happy, others will easily see it. You will become an object of desire to men, this includes your ex boyfriend.





    These tips were helpful for me to get my ex boyfriend back.However, if you really want to get him back I will recommend to get good guide on how to get your ex back. There are many guides out there but most of them are crap (I tried too many of them...).





    You can learn about one of the best and most popular guides on how to get your ex boyfriend back in this blog:





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    all the bestWhat can i do to get my ex back?
    You can't. Everybody has their own problems w*ore. Get some brains in that stupid head of yours and figure it out on your own.
    all I can say is you have to reigniting desire and passion...


    about how.. follow this reference
    I think it would be better to move on.
    First of all, its not fair to your current boyfriend OR you to be in a relationship that doesnt meen something to you. It sounds like he was just an emotional rebound for you, and you probably gave him false hope, and you'll hurt him when you break up with him, but I think its the best you can do for both of you. After you've been single for awhile, and your not so emotional, then you should make you decision. You might find that its just the hurt you think will go away if you get back with your ex. Wait for the pain to subside, and if you still love him then consider making a move and reconnecting.
    it must really suck to love 2 guys. my suggestion, although it`s a little wrong, is to watch out for yourself. don`t break up with your guy until you talk to your ex and make sure he wants you back. you might end up with none of the 2 guys and that would reaaaaaly suck.





    there are a lot of ways to get him back. the only problem is that he has to want you. you can do backflips through spinning fire and it`s all for nothing if he doesn`t want you back. try to approach him somehow, ';run into'; him by accident, ask him out for coffee. Start the conversation with sth like ... I wanted to talk about us, about how we left stuff. See where his head is at about all. Avoid talking about you current bf.

    In love with my ex?

    I broke up from my ex 2 months and a half, we always used to fight and had very different perspectives,we met face to face the other day and even if we just spoke,he said feelings run deep and it caught me off guatd,i am with a guy who is very faithfull and amazing but my mind is in a whirlwind and i realise I still love my ex even if he is teh total opposit of my guy we want to stay friends but,i don`t know how to get rid of this feeling inside.In love with my ex?
    this situation u have come up in is the same, which almost every individual goes through after they break off..but as u said ur realtionship was not that promising and had many differnt opinions betwen u both..i advice to give a wait to ur fellings and let him show a sign of come back..and try maintain the relationship of trust with ur new friend which u say is trustworthy...so dont be in a delemma and u aslo be trustworthy to him..see the reactions or sign of ur ';ex'; and thn take a decision...beacuse i will end with qoute which rather suits to u





    “You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.”In love with my ex?
    Do not get back with your EX, it will not work since it didn't worked the first time. In time you'll get over him.
    hay .. u really love you ex than your present guy.. thats the reason behind you feelings even after 2.5 months and after getting a bf like whom u was searching and whom you expected..


    try to speak with your ex in a lonely place and you both take an extra time .. definetly a good decision will come ..
    i will tell you something, this ex-friendship tthing does not work especially if you still have feelings for someone. u will start by saying someone is your friend and then when you see him with someone you react to that. and trust me you don't wanna put ur guy thru that,he does not deserve it.the feelings will always be there if u truly love him,so don't get too close...i mean that wont be fair to you neither,it will be as if you are working backwards,and after all wat came between the two of u in the first place might still come between the two of u. if u were not able to sort it out while together there is no gurantee that u will after u have been apart.

    Ex girlfriend/ borderline personality disorder/ want her back?

    for the record.. i am still in love with my ex.. even though she has bpd.. i did research and read books alas it was after she left me.. however i was talking with some of her friends, and even though she is dating a new guy now she still ';likes me';. The last thing i heard from her straight her was ';i hate you, your a loser, i wasted a year and half with you, i'm embarrassed, don't ever talk to me again or i'll place a restraining order on you.'; The day before she broke up with me she was telling me how she wanted to get engaged for christmas and get pregnant this summer? anyhow... anyone have experience with a bpd ex girlfriend? will she come back? I am not talking to her it's been over a month but i plan to contact her by the time summer rolls around (4 months from now).. I still love her and even though she is dating a new guy i don't think it will work out.. any suggestions or ideas? we dated for a year and a half and her longest bf before that was like 5 monthsEx girlfriend/ borderline personality disorder/ want her back?
    Yes she will come back - and it will be the best three weeks of your life - then she will tell you that she hates you and wants you out of her life - and when you leave - she will call you and accuse you of abandoning her - and moan about how cruel you were - you will feel guilty because you seem like a nice guy - and you will promise not to abandon her next time, you will be back together for a week and she will get mad at you for going to the store for orange juice - because she knows that you have an ex-girlfriend who likes orange juice and she thinks that you might be planning on leaving her.





    Don't bother with her - get on with your life and find a nice girl who actually likes YOU. Not someone who says that she loves you because you seem like the ideal man - if only you could change a few things.





    Yikes.





    Good luck.Ex girlfriend/ borderline personality disorder/ want her back?
    If you love her you shouldn't give up. Borderlines have usually tolerated tremendous abuse. They survived they are afarid. Love takes time anyway most people don't have what it takes to be w/ someone who is damaged.

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    Some women play endless games. At least you know the borderline wants kndness and love. You have to be mentally ill to want that these days.

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    I know you love her. . and she probably will come back if you put care forth to her (it's what they want), but.. it isn't worth it for you, if she still has Bpd. Please, do not do it unless she is willing to get therapy. Please. It hurts so much. I was the Bpd girlfriend, and I didn't know it.. I hurt the man I love for an entire year before he could not take anymore. It hurt him so badly. Unless she shows steps in recovery, and actively wants it, do not do it. But if she agrees to therapy, you two will have to work together skill. Get the ';Walking on Eggshells'; workbook, and do it. If you really love her, then do anything you can to get her help. 1) You can be happy together, 2) She will unlikely ever be happy in her life if she does not get help. Trust me. It's a DAMNED miserable exsitnce, even if she seems so happy. It's all an act.





    Good luck.
    You can check my source to see how difficult it is to be the spouse/partner of someone with borderline personality disorder.





    It's horrifying and they can unleash a firestorm of chaos and terror that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Unlike bipolar disorder - it's not often manageable with medication, only long-term, intensive therapy and even then the results aren't always that great. Further, 7%-10% of those formally diagnosed with BPD commit suicide successfully (many more try).





    My sincere suggestion is to not burden yourself with such a relationship. You can't fix her. She can't fix her. And it takes an uncommon BPD to recognize that s/he has a problem and commit to what it takes to manage it properly.





    My advice... let her go or deal with (potentially) a lifetime of madness.
    If she has left YOU, then no matter how painful it might seem, it was for the best. She's projecting her ';crap'; on you. She hates herself, she is the loser, and you're actually the one who wasted a year and half with you. It sounds nuts, but the BPD is what's nuts. In time, you'll see that it's for the best, and when a BPD leaves, it's usually because they think you'll leave them, or you weren't as ';easy'; a target as they thought. So, they leave before you leave them. Something like that.





    Do NOT have any contact with her because it'll make things worse. If she DOES crawl back(and it's not uncommon for people like her to do so), then no matter how tempting it would be to take her back, DON'T. Unless she is willing to go through years of therapy, and I do mean years, then she will not change.





    Just stay away(avoid any and all contact with her) or YOU will suffer along with her.
    .....wtf
    if you cantoact her you will probably make her mad.


    she will probably have an episode !





    don't put her through that please !
    You really would be better off leaving this one alone. She will always have these problems.


    I have watched many families torn apart by mental illness.

    I really like my ex's best friend.. what should i do?

    My ex and I dated for a little over two years, and broke up almost two years ago. However, we remain good friends. The other night my neighbors had a party that the guy i've had a crush on drove around two hours to come to with my ex and i. I haven't seen him for a couple of months, and the second I saw him i got all excited and gave him a hug and told him that i missed him. he told me he had missed me too.





    Later that night at the party we came back to my house to smoke a cigarettebecause it was cold outside. we sat on my couch and being slightly intoxicated, I told him the feelings i had for him for the past couple of years. he replied ';that's fine'; and then told me he needed a hug. he gave me a huge hug and didn't seem to ever want to let go. after that we just sat around and then went back to the party, where we were pretty much inseparable the rest of the night. after the party, me, him, my ex and my ex's roommate came back to my house and just sat around. both my ex and his roommate fell asleep, and adam and i continued drinking and talking to each other until almost three in the morning. the sofa and the futon were both being used, so i told him if he wanted to sleep in my bed with me that he could. he ended up sleeping in my bed with me, and we also ended up sleeping together.





    i feel like he has the same feelings for me, but i dont know for sure. i admitted to my ex that adam and i slept together and my ex didn't seem to have a problem with it. this just seems like a complicated situation. Adam and I have always had a ton of stuff in common. My ex even told me he figured that Adam and I were going to end up dating at some point. Do I ask Adam how he feels? He did say to me that it would be weird to date me due to the awkwardness of the whole ex's best friend situation. Should i tell him what my ex said to me? Someone please give me some advice! Also, does it seem like he feels the same way about me?I really like my ex's best friend.. what should i do?
    Just ask him.I really like my ex's best friend.. what should i do?
    blow them both and see how your ex feels about it
    just take what you hart want
    Steer clear,, i went out with a mates ex once thinking he didnt mind but eventually it became clear it was affecting him and it ruined my friendship with him and i eventually stopped seeing the girl too.

    The Ex wants me back now, really dont know what to do?

    Ok so a couple weeks ago i broke up w/ my ex bc i caught her talk to her ex boyfriend multiple time and not just ';hey how are you' but things like i love you, i miss you, one time she even told him that she was single. and she talk to other guys just bc she likes the attention, she admitted that. i just grew so tired of it, it was so wrong and unfair. she says its all bc her first bf messed her head up so bad so now she craves attention from guys bc he never gave her any. But after a couple of time of pouring my heart out and tellin her how much that she hurt me by sayin those things to her ex bf, she continued to do it so i had to break it off.





    when i first broke it off i knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that i hoped she would change and we could work it out. of course i was down and missed her like crazy. but after a little while i felt better and like i was ready to just move on. So about a week ago she started callin again alot saying how much see missed me and is sorry. so we started hangin out some again, she says she will change and that she knows she needs to fix things.





    I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. im really stuck. sometimes i think just go and move on she wont change. then i think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good. Its just tough bc now when we hang out all i can think about is oh great who is she talking to now.





    She has started seeing a pyschiatrist since she knows she has some issues and she ';says'; that one of the main things she talks about with them is how she likes attention and how she keeps talkin to her ex even though she has no true feelings for him. I dunno what to do, it seems like she really wants to fix things but who knows if she will and if so how long will i have to wait around for it.


    I thought about just givin it a rest w/ her for a while so she can get herself straight. i just feel like its now or never though. like we will be too far down are own paths later on to work anything outThe Ex wants me back now, really dont know what to do?
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  • My ex is still wondering about me...and about my current boyfriend...?

    Me and my ex dated for SIX days.. But before that we were just friends with benefits, we made out everytime we saw each other and we would get very intimate with eachother.. I thought that it was going to last but I relized that the age difference was too crazy and my parents would never allow me to date him...I mean I didnt even tell them about him. Im 15 and he just turned 20.. so i broke up with him.





    I still have FEELINGS for my ex...








    but i really like my current boyfriend, and because I see him everyday, unlike my ex.. i only saw him three times a week, because he would pick me up from school and drop me off..





    but my boyfriend I acctually get to see him which i love.. i dont have to wait till the day is over and wait for him to come to me.





    How can I avoid talking to my ex....even though I CANT HELP MYSELF !!!My ex is still wondering about me...and about my current boyfriend...?
    what the hell r u doing to ur self???????????????????


    u need to grew up !!!!!!!!!!!!

    Help ex wants me back, dont know if i should though?

    Ok so a couple weeks ago i broke up w/ my ex bc i caught her talk to her ex boyfriend multiple time and not just ';hey how are you' but things like i love you, i miss you, one time she even told him that she was single. and she talk to other guys just bc she likes the attention, she admitted that. i just grew so tired of it, it was so wrong and unfair. she says its all bc her first bf messed her head up so bad so now she craves attention from guys bc he never gave her any. But after a couple of time of pouring my heart out and tellin her how much that she hurt me by sayin those things to her ex bf, she continued to do it so i had to break it off.





    when i first broke it off i knew that would be only way for her to realize things and that i hoped she would change and we could work it out. of course i was down and missed her like crazy. but after a little while i felt better and like i was ready to just move on. So about a week ago she started callin again alot saying how much see missed me and is sorry. so we started hangin out some again, she says she will change and that she knows she needs to fix things.





    I just dont know what to do she seems so sincere but still. im really stuck. sometimes i think just go and move on she wont change. then i think maybe she will change and im pushing away something good. Its just tough bc now when we hang out all i can think about is oh great who is she talking to now.





    She has started seeing a pyschiatrist since she knows she has some issues and she ';says'; that one of the main things she talks about with them is how she likes attention and how she keeps talkin to her ex even though she has no true feelings for him. I dunno what to do, it seems like she really wants to fix things but who knows if she will and if so how long will i have to wait around for it.


    I thought about just givin it a rest w/ her for a while so she can get herself straight. i just feel like its now or never though. like we will be too far down are own paths later on to work anything outHelp ex wants me back, dont know if i should though?
    theres a reason they are called ';ex's';. Once they are an ';ex'; they never stop.